Post # 1
I have plenty of time to plan, and this is my issue:
I am caucasion, Mr. Tacos is Persian, but I want Indian elements as opposed to Christian for our wedding. I think we’re on-board to do it at an Indian reception venue – so we’re having Indian food, decor, etc. I’m also having mendhi done on myself and my bridesmaid. We’ll likely have both our wedding vows (Christian ceremony) and nikkah there as well as the reception.
I was originally planning on wearing a lengha (Pakistani dress), in off white, because I’ve never been particularly partial to wedding dresses… but now I’m thinking this will be a bit overboard. I don’t want to change my jewelry/venue/decor or henna, so my only option to “tone it down” would be to wear a traditional wedding dress. But it isn’t what I necessarily want!
Any ideas? Should I suck it up and do the regular dress, or should we just have fun with this? Are there any dresses which would pass for a lengha? So confused!
Post # 3
We’re adding elements of Chinese culture to our wedding, but because I’m a white girl who lives in China (and is marrying a half-Korean, half-white guy who’s first time in Asia was to woo me) we don’t want it to overwhelm.
What about wearing a traditional (western) gown for the ceremony, but the Persian style dress for reception? Or for the get-away? Or the rehearsal? I’m wearing a traditional chinese qipao for my rehearsal, and I’m super excited, because I wanted to wear one for the wedding, but it just doesn’t ‘fit’ anywhere. 🙂
Post # 4
- Wedding: July 2010 - Anela Garden Chapel & Japanese Cultural Center, Honolulu
It doesn’t really sound overboard to me..but I agree with daydream, what about changing during the reception? I’ll be changing from my traditional dress to a Chinese cheongsam during the reception. Or maybe for e-pics? I’m be doing kimonos with FI for those..lol. I say have fun with it!
Post # 5
maybe pick one of two elements- western dress indian fabric or all white persian/ indian style
Post # 6
- Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch
If you wear an off-white lengha, I don’t think it will be overboard. If you wore a red and gold one, it might be a little in-your-face. 😉 Have fun with it! If you are seriously concerned, there are “traditional” wedding dresses that have patterns and embroidery and straps/sleeves that are somewhat similar in styling to some lenghas.
Post # 7
I say go for it! I don’t think it’s overboard at all – on the contrary, I think it will go with your theme nicely.
Post # 8
I would advise against wearing off white – I’m Persian/Indian myself and an unrelieved off white has connotations of being in mourning, especially if you aren’t going for some of the more daring lehenga styles due to religious reasons (nikkah in the mosque, etc.)
I’d say stick with the corals/reds/pinks or even jewel toned blues or greens. If you think nothing compliments your skin like a lighter shade, aim for a subtle silver or atleast white with colorful embroidery in your wedding colors. Save the white for your “western style” reception after (if you are planning one)
I’ve attached some pics, let me know if you’re requiring anything specific (i.e. color options for your specific hair color, different choli styles for the upper part of the lehenga)
* Elizabeth Hurley (she married an Indian man)
* Ali Larter in a Bollywood movie (The first outfit is a typical wedding look for bride and groom)
Post # 9
* Jessica Alba in The Love Guru (She’s wearing a very daring outfit in both instances that I see bordering on the slightly scandalous side if you’d wear it IRL)
* Natalie Portman in a Devendra Banhart vid (Again, the accessories are brilliant but the outfit is a bit on the revealing side)
* Aishwarya Rai (She’s one of the most popular Indian actresses known for doing costume dramas – heavy duty embroidery here!)
The last two pics also show Madhuri Dixit, another popular actress.
Post # 10
im very new to these boards but i have been reviewing all the advice you lovely ladies have been handing out. thank you in advance.
i am Caucasian-Canadian and my futur husband is Indian-Canadian (born in India -Punjabi/Sikh). We are going to India April 2011 for the huge weddig celebration but we are doing a wedding here.
We originally wanted to do a traditional “North American” christian wedding here since it’s mainly for my family and our friends but after flipfloping back and forth we have our heart set on a more “modern” indian-fusion wedding.
In terms of the cermony: we are thinking christian ceremony. I however want to wear an indian dress of some sort (probably in red, as i am told its a significant colour for Punjabi/Sikh weddings).
Any suggestions or ideas as we are new to this whole process would be much appreciated.