Post # 1
My parents and I don’t understand who to tip!!!! Can you help? These are My vendors – who should I tip??? Please help 🙂
1. Caterers – two owners, two servers, one bartender (give gratuity for all five? Give check to the company for gratuity to distribute to all? Or individual envelopes?)
2. Photographer – friend of family. Requested $500 payment. Add tip?
3. String trio – self employed. Do we also tip? Mom says that etiquette rules state that if they own the company you don’t tip?
4. Ice cream sandwich vendor – owner is sending a staff member last minute instead of coming herself.
5. Table delivery truck? No?
6. Alcohol Delivery truck? No?
7. Day of coordinator hired from task rabbit?
8. volunteer of venue (it’s a historic house) who will be there to monitor the event?
Post # 2
I don’t know too much about individual tipping since ours were generally included in the price (15-20%), but I DO know that you don’t generally tip the owner of a company. We didn’t tip our photographer since it was her company and we were already paying her a fortune.
Our officiant was a friend of the family and didn’t charge us anything and he is a photographer and we got some great freebie shots so we are going to get him a gift.
Post # 3
- Wedding: May 2015 - Walnut Hill Bed & Breakfast
I personally hate our tipping culture… but I would say…
1. the volunteer at the venue definitely deserves a tip! he/she is working for free?!
2. I’d also think the day-of coordinator might deserve a tip, depending on how happy you are with their job at the end of the night.
3. table/alcohol delivery… I’d consider tipping the guys who have to load/unload the truck. Especially if they have to carry heavy things a long distance or in extreme cold/heat. Maybe $10-20 each?
4. I’d tip the family friend photographer. Most wedding photographers charge upwards of $1500-5000.
I’m not sure about the others… especially cattering, i think some might include a tip already?
(Ps. Also make sure to feed the people who are there all day!)
Post # 4
You do not tip anyone if you are already paying them directly — either by a payment in their own name or by a payment to a company that they own. So, you don’t tip the owners of the catering company, the photographer, or the string trio. You tip anyone who does you a personal service whom you are not already paying: the day-of coordinator, the ice-cream sandwich person, the historic-site docent. With the truck drivers, it depends in whether the service they provide is personal or perfunctory. If they patiently move things into place under your direction then yes, you tip them. If they slide the tables off the truck into one big pile and ride off into the sunset, then no.
Post # 5
Google it. There is plenty of wedding tipping etiquette information available. You should find exactly what you are looking for.