Confused about honeymoon. Help?

posted 2 years ago in Honeymoons
  • poll: Where should we go for our honeymoon? (Maybe say why, below, too! :) )
    Are you crazy? Paris, Rome, and Venice for 12 days... this is a no brainer! : (45 votes)
    52 %
    I prefer unlimited drinks, food, and no jet lag. Call up Sandals or Secrets and stay for 10 days! : (31 votes)
    36 %
    Honeymoons are best for a week of luxury. Contact the Ritz Carlton ASAP. (Aruba? St. Thomas?) : (11 votes)
    13 %
  • Post # 2
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    825 posts
    Busy bee

    Since you’ve never been on a trip together before — is there a way to do a little of both? Relaxation and moving around? Going on a trip together means you learn a LOT about each others planning and vacation styles and it can put a tension even on the healthiest relationship if people’s expectations aren’t on the same page. Maybe a trip to the caribbean where you plan a small activity once a day so that your FI can get to relax and you still don’t sit on the beach for 7-10 days. 

    Post # 3
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    13012 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I’m with your friends, if you guys have never been to Europe and won’t get to go on vacation for a few years, Europe definitely.  Luxury doesn’t do it for me, so I’d never do that, and 10 days at an all inclusive beach sounds pretty boring to me.  (We did 10 days on St John for our honeymoon, not all inclusive, but pretty much ate and drank whatever we wanted, and by day 6 I was tried of the beach and eating).  For a honeymoon, I’d say relax, if you typically otherwise travel a lot.  I wanted to go to Italy for our hm, but he wanted to relax.  And I only agreed to a relaxing one cause he promised we’d go the next year.

    Post # 4
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    4760 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    What do you mean your FI is a terrible traveller?

     

    Where are you comming from.  Jetlag from the east coast is ok, sleep on the plane and you can kinda manage, but from the west coast it’s torture.  

    Out of the 12 days does that include 2 travel days?  so 10 dasy of actual sightseeing?

    I’m not really one who finds the cities you chose in Europe to be nice at all. They are tourist traps and dirty.  I don’t think there are dirtier cities in Europe.  

    Post # 5
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    1076 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    If this is your first and only vacation for a while, I would take it easy. While the All-Inclusive isn’t the most awesome thing in the world (in comparison to 12 days of Europe), it will be relaxing. That’s what the honeymoon is supposed to be.

    A 12 day multi-country trip is draining, even for the most experienced traveler. Coming from someone who has two thumbs and spent three exhuasting days in Vegas only to go right back to work a few hours after getting back home (this girl), you should take the easiest, most relaxing option.

    Remember, you have a lifetime together. Save Europe for your OMG I’M DONE WITH A DISSERTATION! trip. 

    Post # 7
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    7090 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2012

    Europe all the way. I’d recommend getting tickets on a red eye so you can sleep on the plane, and when you get there the time change won’t be too crazy. It’s usually on the way back that really sucks in my experience.

    Post # 8
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    10999 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2009

    I am your (currently) lone vote for the week of luxury.  I spent more money on my week in the Caribbean than any sensible person should, but I loved our beautiful, boutique hotel and the luxurious accommodations, top-notch service, beautiful beach, and amazing food that it provided. I would love to go back for an anniversary someday. Although I would love to go to Europe as well, that was not at all how I wanted to spend my first week of married life and all of the new experiences that brought for me.

    Post # 10
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    119 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: June 2015

    We are doing Rome, Naples, Florence and Venice for 15 days so I vote for Europe! Reason being, you only get 1 honeymoon, you can always take a “vacation”. I would (and am) going all out for the honeymoon. If you are looking for some relaxation, there are some nice beaches in Italy that you can spend some time at relaxing. A honeymoon is all about romance and love some what could me more romantic than a honeymoon in the most romantic cities in the world! 

    Post # 11
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    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2015

    crackktheskyy:  you will be exhausted hitting all those cities in that time frame. I would just do Europe later in life and spend your honeymoon chillllling on an epic secluded beach with service that anticipates your every whim. That’s my plan anyway lol.

    I feel like especially if your FI is a bad traveller then def don’t plan an aggressive itinerary. Enjoy each other, celebrate, relax and be served!

    Post # 12
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    10999 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2009

    I never would have known about or chosen this location had one of my dear friends and her husband not stayed there and recommended it.  However, we stayed at a small, extremely elegant, all-ocean-front suites, boutique hotel that had been (and may still be) run by the daughter of the owner of Sandals but was not (at that time — five years ago) marketed under the Sandals’ brand. It’s called Royal Plantation, and it’s absolutely gorgeous.

    Here is a link: http://www.sandals.com/main/plantation/rp-home. Check out their Royal Oceanfront One Bedroom Butler Suite and the three higher categories that are above that.  The accommodations are steller, the service is fabulous, and the food is delicious.  My DH and I booked a snorkeling excursion, and we were the only two — along with the captain — on the boat!

    Now, if you REALLY want top-notch Caribbean luxury, and money is no object, you may be interested in a resort that I was very interested in but which was above my price range, and that is Sandy Lane in Barbados. Here is a link for that one: http://www.sandylane.com/

    Post # 13
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    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2015

    Also there are some incredible boutique resorts in the carribean on 100s of acres, private villa and pool, all inclusive but not a massive resort like sandals or the Ritz.

    Ladera, Hermitage Bay, Jade Mountain, Guana Island (private island!!), Sugar Beach by Viceroy etx

    Post # 14
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    7090 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2012

    crackktheskyy:  normally they turn all the lights down on the plane to help you sleep. I’d definitely recommend a good travel pillow though! My mom and I recently went to Norway and our plane left at 10:00 PM, it was great because we actually felt somewhat rested when we arrived and it was only 1:00 in the afternoon there. We left early in the morning on the way back and that was awful, haha.

    12 days is definitely enough time for 3 cities IMO. It might not be a super “relaxing” vacation but it would still be tons of fun!

    Post # 15
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    Worker bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    I vote for a week of relaxation. FI and I love to travel and we did a lot of it separately and together but the last trip we went on that had mutilple cities and transferring we were so tired we were always wanting to bite each other’s head off. And we never fight at home! Europe sounds wonderful for honeymoon though so maybe you should only do 1 or 2 cities max. Take in the sights, enjoy some local spots and not just the most touristy places. My sister and her bf did Rome, Venice, and Florence in 11 days and they also had a terrible time. If your FI doesn’t travel well then why add on the stress? You don’t want to start your married life exhausted and frazzled. Good luck and have a wonderful time wherecer you choose to go!

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