(Closed) Confused about name change stuff…

posted 8 years ago in LGBTQ
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

hmmm. wish i could be more help!!! they may let you, i would call the socialy sucurity office, because if you can change it with them, eveyone else has to change it too!

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

The marriage certificate will be enough to get your name changed with the federal government.  Even though the federal government still does not recognize same-sex marriages, it treats them as though Iowa had given you a court-ordered name change at the same time.

The situation at the state level is more complicated.  In some states, a person who has had his or her name changed for Social Security purposes as the result of a same-sex marriage has been unable to get a driver’s license in the new name.

You may want to check what documentation your home state requires for a name change.  If the documentation required is something you would be able to provide, without reference to the marriage certificate (e.g., if a passport is sufficient), then you shouldn’t have a problem.  If it is not, you could try to persuade them that your marriage certificate is the legal equivalent of a court change of name.  However, your success may depend on who is on duty at the motor vehicles department that day.

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

@MsInterpret:  Yeah, you could try to persuade them that the marriage certificate is a court order changing your name, even if they won’t accept the marriage itself.  That’s basically the theory on which the Social Security Administration is operating, since the feds also don’t recognize same-sex marriage, and you might want to take in the Social Security rules to back up your case.  However, I suspect that whether you succeeded would depend on which employee processed the request.  At worst, you’d need to go through the legal change of name procedures.

And my sympathies on all the places it needs to be done!  I am very thankful that I have never wanted to change my name, either as a result of my previous (straight) marriage, or as a result of the current (same-sex) one.

Post # 8
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: October 2011

My fiancee and I live in MD, where same-sex marriages are recognized but not performed. We are getting legally married in DC in a couple of months and then having a destination vow renewal/big party in Mexico for our first anniversary (10/2011). She is taking my last name and is having it legally changed (has a court date for November) so that it will be the same, across the board, no questions. It cost a hundred bucks or so but will prevent that weird two-name limbo. 

 

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

If you are getting married in Maryland, why does she need to go to court to change her name?  The Social Security Office, passport office, etc., will accept the name change based on the marriage.  And it would seem that the MVA should, too, now that same-sex marriage is recognized in Maryland.

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2010 - Heritage Square Museum

Hiya!

So we changed our names on our Domestic Partner Registry here in California and had no problem getting our new social security cards or drivers licenses…

Sure the lady at the Social Security office had to “find that email about this stuff” and call over a few looky lous to “help” her, but she got it done.

Same story at DMV. Here in CA the DMV website is pretty explicit that you need a “True Full Name” document that shows the legal change- it then lists true full name documents, including domestic registry.

I printed out these pages just in case I needed ’em, but in the end it wasn’t a problem…

I know you’re talking about changing your name in a different state then you marry in, so I’m not sure all the rules- but I would just do your homework so you can be prepared.

AND I think most peeps actually travel using their original name due to time concerns with getting a new passport- again here in CA our Domestic Partnership requires us to have all our name changing done within 2 years.

I’m sure a similar (although maybe shorter?) window of time exists for marriage?

AND yippee! 🙂

Post # 13
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: July 2011

@MsInterpret: Just wondering what ever became of the name change since I’m now in the same situation. 

Thanks Smile

Post # 14
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Had no idea this was a year old post until I opened it!  I am living in IL where civil unions are performed and recognized.  MY FI wants us both to change our name and we’re hypenating.  Is the civil union license all we need?

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