Post # 1
So need some advice!
I have a good job…..on paper anyway! It can be stressful but I make good money and is near home. The benefits are great I will get full maternity pay for 6 months and can take a further 3 months unpaid and return to my job. To be honest I would leave no problem only we plan to TTC soon. I’m 31 and will be 32 in Dec. My FI is 34, we get married in November and had planned to TTC straight away, which brings me to today. I got a call off a competitor for a position that sounds great. It would be challenging but I have all the experience to hit the ground running and it would basically be a role I would be responsible for developing. I am currently bored in my current role, as well as stressed and super busy. They advised me today that the role won’t be very busy for the first few years.
So here’s my predicament, if I left my current role, I would probably need to be in the new company 12 months to qualify for paid mat leave. For the sector I’m in and the country I’m from it will be standard most employers will pay mat leave after 12 months, which means realistically we would need to put off TTC for 3-4 months. But then if I stay where I am it could take us that long if not longer to conceive anyway! And then I’ll be stuck in this job FOREVER!!! Or if I move and put off TTC and then it still doesn’t happen will I kick myself for not trying sooner.
Ahhhhh if this opportunity had come up 6 months ago I would have jumped up and down!! As well as TTC and planning a wedding it feels like the timing is off. Or maybe it will take us a while to get pregnant and it is perfect timing.
I haven’t gotten the new job anyway but they seemed very impressed and are setting up a telephone interview. I also would feel bad starting a new role knowing I was TTC and would maybe be leaving soon.
Advice, suggestions anyone?!
Post # 2
I would say take the job if it is offered. You never know how long TTC will take and you don’t want to put your life on hold and then drive yourself crazy knowing that it took that long anyway.
Post # 3
Penang1885: if i get it! kinda jumping ahead of myself here lol! i’m way more a planner than go with the flow type of person! trying to get better at going with the flow!
Post # 4
I would take the job and TTC right away. If you get pregnant before you qualify for paid maternity leave, take it unpaid (I assume they still have to give you 6 weeks or something legally?). You likely won’t get pregnant on the first try anyway and it won’t be an issue. You don’t have to sacrifice one or the other.
Post # 5
Bettyboo1982: You’re in quite a predicament! But congratulations on many fronts: new career opportunity, getting married and starting a new family.
I’m going to play Devil’s Advocate and pose these comments/questions:
1. How important is paid MAT leave for you? If the new company requires 12 month tenure to have coverage, can you negotiate at the time of acceptance? Can you negotiate to 9 months of tenure?
2. Based on your research, the new job will be less stress? I say this because whenever I transition to a new role, I’m always overwhelmed with so much catching up and put in 60+ hrs a week. I normally work 50 hrs a week.
3. Can you talk to your current employer and discuss new projects that can keep you from getting bored?
My suggestion would be to take the new job and start trying in 2015. With your wedding and end of the year holidays, you’ll most likely be super busy trying to time TTC.
Post # 6
RunnerBride13: if i didn’t qualify for the paid mat leave i would get a smaller supplement from the state for 6 months mat leave. I’m in Ireland and no one would ever take 6 weeks mat leave, the minimum is 6 month either state funded or employer funded. We would barely survive on the state payment so its not really an option. in my current role when you add up holidays unpaid leave and paid leave it would work out at 11 months maternity leave. so its a big gamble really. I mean we could probably survive on the state pay and my FI’s wages but it would be very tight.
Post # 7
NowandLater: thanks yes the paid leave is really important for us to be comfortable. I mean we could probably survive but it would be very very tight!
I know thats what i’m thinking too about a new role, and i know I would be like that too, I would be working hard to make a good impression, because thats just my personality. I was just thinking that if i really enjoyed the job it might be nice to come back to after mat leave knowing that it is something I can develop further.
ahhhhh i’m too much of a planner!
Post # 8
I don’t think there’s a “right” answer to this one, I can seen lots of pros and cons on both sides!
Just to add another point which I don’t think has been mentioned – if you decide not to take this new job right now, that doesn’t mean you’ll be stuck in your current job FOREVER, even if you do have kids. You have competitors calling you up and asking you to come work for them, so you clearly have a good reputation in your field and have skills which are in demand! I’m sure other opportunities will come your way even if you don’t go for this one.
Post # 9
RunnerBride13: what she said.
Take the job, if they offer it and you want it. It is (almost) never worth it to stay at a job that you have outgrown. Go ahead with your plans to TTC and take it from there. If you get pregnant right away, awesome — you may have to take some or all of your leave unpaid, but I think in the long run it’s not worth it to turn down a great job opportunity just for that (assuming you can afford it, which it sounds like you can if you were thinking of leaving your job anyway). If you don’t get pregnant right away, the you’ll be glad you started TTc as planned, and you’ll get your new job AND your paid maternity leave — win-win! Good luck.
ETA: I think I misunderstood your initial post — it sounds like the money IS important to you. In that case, I would take the new job and wait to start TTC until you’ve been at the new job for 3 moths.