(Closed) Confused

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
Member
1686 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

If a friend of mine scheduled their expensive DW three weeks before mine (knowing the date!) I probably would RSVP “decline.” No hard feelings and I’d wish them the best of luck and much future happiness, but I’m selfish enough (and I don’t think this is a bad thing) to put my finances, my relationship, and my stress levels ahead of someone else’s “big day.”

In an ideal world, we’d all be considerate of how our choices impact others when we’re requesting that people spend their time and money on the things that are important to us. Your friend sounds like she has no compunction about doing what’s right for her and what she wants, without considering how it might impact anyone else, so it’s up to you to make the choices that are right for you.

Post # 4
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205 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I don’t really have any advice, other than to be a good friend and follow through with being the best MOH you can be, and hope that she returns the favor for you in a couple weeks.  I’ve been in similar situations, and its extremely hard to be the friend that feels like they give and give, with little return.  At this point though, I think all you can do is go through with your commitment to her wedding, and then come back and get excited to celebrate your own in a couple short weeks!!!

Don’t let this get you down too much, because you don’t want to let something like this to put a damper on your own wedding day or ruin your friendship in the long run.  Good luck!! 🙂

Post # 5
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3295 posts
Sugar bee

@Elvis:  Since the original post was erased, I will agree with her. Sounds like an answer I would give- good luck OP

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