(Closed) confused and heart broken…

posted 5 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Moving can be scary but I would and have moved for a great deal on a house. You will make friends and learn your way around. I have now lived in 13 states. It really can be fun! Life is all about attitude so tell yourself good things about moving. 😀 Then go check out that house and the neighborhood. You can always back out if it is a bad neighborhood but you will never know til you go scope it out.

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Go visit the house. Don’t just be scared

Post # 5
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

Wow, that is really short notice! I understand why you’re feeling hesitant and rushed.

If you’re truly interested in the house (I’m guessing that you are), I’d recommend trying the city-data forums to get a general feel for the neighborhood. Hopefully they have some useful info over there! I’m in the process of moving and it’s been an incredible resource.

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

I totally understand how you feel. I love the town I grew up in and the only time I have left was during college I moved 2 hours away but visited home atleast every other weekend plus long breaks at Christmas and the whole summer. My fiance ended up taking a job in the same city he went to college in but before we got engaged I told him marrying him meant he would have to try and find a job back in our hometown (we started dating in high school) he agreed and transfered up here for work but honestly he doesn’t like it and I feel like its my fault he gave up a job he loves. Now, he has the oppurtunity to go back to his old job (which is a pay raise) and now that I am finishing up my masters degree, I will have better job oppurtunities there as well but its 2 hours away from my family. I am considering it, because his happiness is important and its a great place to live as well and we both have more oppurutunities and our future children would as well but its scary.

I am SUPER close with my parents and while they aren’t super old or anything (in there late 50’s) I start thinking about losing them and how I want to spend as much time as possible with them and living 2 hours away seems hard. But I know this is a normal part of becoming an adult and starting a family of your own. And they promise if we decide to do it that they will come stay with us one weekend a month and we will come visit home one weekend a month and the weekends we don’t meet up we will meet halfway for dinner or something. 

So my biggest advise.. Make a pro/con list and then compromise some so you can both be happy! 

Post # 7
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Newbee

Wow, that is really short notice! Merry Christmas!

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

An hour isn’t that far away. At least its not across the country! It’s good to explore new things. Just go check it out!

Post # 9
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

CHECK OUT THE HOUSE!

(As long as it’s in a decent area….) An hour is NOTHING. Cmon! I lived 4 hrs away at one time from my folks and still visited almost every weekend. This could be an opprtunity to carve out a new life with your sweetie and have some privacy from other family while still being super close. What a blessing if it could work out.

Post # 10
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

lol…I’ve driven farther to a decent Trader Joes! 

Post # 11
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Busy bee

@clockwerk:  i say embrace change & be bold. having a house would be great, wish I could lol. Maybe one day. I’ve always been a independant creature. one who goes her won way. you’ve got to go out of your shell & go to places yopu’ve never been

Post # 12
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

At least go see the house. As someone who moved out/away at 19, and had a roommate who first moved out at 26, do yourself a favor. She “couldn’t handle” living out of her parents’ house even though we were five minutes away. :

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