- 7 years ago
- Wedding: April 2011
I’ve been troubled by something for a little while and figured the bee would be the best place to go to voice my concerns.
As I have been going around reading posts on erings, I started wondering how everyone goes about choosing their e-ring. It usually seems like the fiance usually made sure the bride would be happy with the end product right?
Well before i get into this, as a precursor, i really DO love my ring. It’s a solitare sapphire. it’s simple, clean and just plain me. he choose the end design, but he let me choose everything else, EXCEPT…
When he proposed he had a placer ring, it was quite appropriate as he is irish (i’m chinese), he bought a silver claddagh ring (if you don’t know what that is, it’s basically an irish engagement/wedding ring), but i was so overwhelmed and surprised at the proposal, i didnt even see the ring right away! lol, i just cried and he had to ask me again to make sure my answer was yes 🙂 very sweet
so he goes on to tell me that he wanted to be sure to get my input on a ring before making any big purchases, which I was completely fine with of course. i also told him frankly i didn’t want him spending a bunch of money on the ring, because we do co-habitate and yeah, i rather that money be spent elsewhere. So then he and i just looked at stuff online and i pointed out styles i liked and he did the rest.
however, here comes the fun part.. he said i could choose ANY stone, except diamond.. blah. that’s where my heart sunk a bit. however, i was sympathetic in the sense that he is paying for it, so he should be able to make the rules right? he also brought up reasoning about the whole blood diamond thing, which i completely understood. and some other technical things that i rather not get into. in the end, i felt his logic was sound and i ended up just telling him that i chose a sapphire – which is exactly what he chose.
and now, after some time has passed, i try to let it go and not let the idea bother me, but i really *wish* i had a diamond ring. i mean, i still LOVE the ring he got me, but i guess i always expect that my engagement ring WOULD be a diamond.
now here is my question, is it insensitive of me to think the way i am? i feel guilty whenever these thoughts get to me, but most bees i see here always gush about how much they love their rings and i DO love mine, but some part of me always wishes i had a diamond ring instead. can someone smack some sense into me? just tell me i’m just being foolish or something, dunno ><;;
anyways, it’s been eating away at me for a while, so i HAD to get it out somewhere.
your comments/advice are appreciated!
thanks and have a good night bees!