Post # 1
this is a stupid question:
what’s the difference between eloping and having a very small wedding?
eloping brings to my mind images of young lovers running away to get married against parents’ wishes (dated i know) and it’s done on the fly. but i’m reading about elopements where there are months of planning ahead of time, etc.
so i guess my question is: how does it differ from a very small, intimate wedding?
Post # 3
I think an elopement is just two of you and sometimes with friends and family. An intimate wedding is one imho with about 50 or less guests.
There’s no right or wrong and you can word it as either an elopement, or an intimate wedding!
Post # 4
I always thought an elopement was just the two people getting married? I guess to me a wedding is the people getting married plus anyone they invite along, even if the invitiation list is only like 1 or 2 people. I think eloping is very romantic. 🙂 Maybe it has a little to do with the connotations you described, lol!
Post # 5
Added: I do think an elopement is more quickly planned. An intimate wedding is usually well planned and I think of an elopement as something done rather quickly in a matter of weeks or days.
Post # 6
- Wedding: August 2009 - Battery Gardens
I was just telling Mr. Swan that I think they are often confused. An elopment technically means it’s just the two of you and no one knows. At least that’s the dictionary definition.
Post # 7
What about us then? We’re getting married at city hall with four guests and a photographer. It’s well-planned out (about two months of planning since we jettisoned the traditional wedding), but it’s a secret for everyone minus the four guests. When we told the guests we were eloping, they all assumed that we’d told FI’s mom at least. Nope! So you tell me – intimate wedding or elopement?
Post # 8
@ cheerful – great question. you were one of the examples i had in mind when i posed the question. i always thought elopement meant no photog, no other people present, etc. and now i’m reading about dinners post ceremony, photogs, dresses, etc. i guess to me it sounds like the fun of planning and celebrating without having to deal w/ seating charts, invite lists, etc.
Post # 9
@cheerful: I would call your wedding a courthosue wedding, because it’s a little too small or secretive to be an intimate wedding, but really an elopement implies a little less planning and no people involved.
Post # 10
I always thought that:
Elopement: running away, spur of the moment – no one knows. Done is secret.
Intimate Wedding: Planned, small, can be done in any location (courthouse, home, etc.). I think you could have an intimate wedding with just the two of you.
I think secrecy is the key to elopement (personally).
Post # 11
It seems everyone’s in agreeance here – elopement seems to be uber-secretive and just between the couple … but an intimate wedding is small and sweet but not so quick and secretive …
Post # 12
My parents eloped while on vacation, and it was a spur-of-the-moment, “hey, wanna get married?” thing. (They had been dating for forever and were living together, they just weren’t planning on getting married or having kids… so much for both of those!) It was a complete surprise; they didn’t tell anyone until after they came back from their vacation!
I think that most elopements still follow this pattern, although recently I have heard of couples having one or two witnesses present, but that the wedding is kept secret from everyone else until after the fact. I think that if the wedding has a small amount of witnesses is not a secret, then it probably falls under the category of “intimate wedding.”
Although, no matter what you call it, I think both elopements and intimate weddings are terribly romantic!
Post # 13
Okay, I think I get it, I’m having a hybrid elopement-intimate wedding!