(Closed) Confused – is he trying to throw me off the scent?

posted 6 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
2731 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

Hm… That’s a tough one. I tend to not say anything when someone has guessed what I’m thinking of, which is really counterintuitive, because obviously they’re going to know they guessed right, but I guess I’m not the brightest bulb in the tanning bed. Maybe your SO does that, too. Anyway, he definitely could be trying to throw you off…but I’m not sure how. Could he have gone silent to make you THINK it’ll be your anniversary and he’s actually planning a Christmas/birthday proposal? Or another day altogether? What I’m saying is, IDK girlfriend. Haha.

But I know how you feel about trying to not get your hopes up for the anniversary proposal. This past year, I told my now-fiance that I did not want any gifts (which was a damn lie. I wanted a ring!) and I thought I was giving him a grand opportunity to surprise me with the ultimate gift. But no, that’s not how he saw it. He saw it as “Oh, she really doesn’t want anything.” So I bought him a really nice engraved necklace and I got nothing. I was really disappointed but I didn’t let him know that I was. I finally got my proposal about three and a half months later, though.

Blah. Sorry for the supah long response. Can’t wait to read your proposal story when it happens, though!!

Post # 4
1903 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Oooh yes very tough indeed. Maybe he was testing the waters of when exactly a proposal would catch you out? If you told him you don’t want it on your birthday or Christmas, he might think you actually do. But now you’ve said you would like it for your anniversary, he may think it’s not going to be a surprise if you expect it.

Completely puzzling I know, my best bet is not to focus too much on an occassion, he may very well ask in between, on a random date to make it special. Good luck 🙂

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