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My SO and I are going to Europe in a few days for a much anticipated vacation.  Everyone thinks he is going to propose while we are there, but I've been trying to stay realistic about it possibly not happening, so it doesn't ruin my trip if it doesn't happen.  Well, at dinner last night he said that he promises that we'll go ring shopping when we get back from our trip.

This would be exciting for lots of women, but he has ALWAYS said he wants it to be a suprise and that he would NEVER take me ring shopping, etc etc (we've been together 7 years and he's never once said he would involve me in the engagement process).  I got really upset that all this time he's said he wanted it to be his thing and I've respected that (despite being very type A, planner, hate suprises kind of girl), but then he threw it out there that'd we go ring shopping when we got back.  I told him 'no, I wouldn't go with him' and told him how I felt confused why after all this time if he was really ready to go ring shopping why he doesn't just do it himself like he said he wanted to all along.  Now, I'm worried he maybe needs the confidence of me going with him or something and I told him 'no'.

But I'm also wondering if he was being stupid and trying to throw me off so I don't think it's going to happen on our trip... after we talked and he knew I was upset he asked that we not talk about it again until we get back and just enjoy our trip and everything will work out.  What the crap!

I know I should get back to where I was thinking it wouldn't happen, but he brought it up and now I'm totally confused and I told him I wouldn't bring it up with him until after we got back... so I don't have anyone to talk to about it and I'm going crazy in my head (I don't talk to anyone about my feelings regarding the proposal b/c everyone gives me crap about us being together so long and not being engaged yet)--

Did i make a mistake telling him I wouldn't go shopping when we get back?  Am I crazy thinking it might still happen in Europe? Any advice how to get my mind off of it between now and when we leave (Thursday) and while we are there?  Should I bring it back up when we get back if it doesn't happen? HELP! I feel like I have crazy brain... and that's not what I want right before what will be the best vacation of my life (with or without a proposal).

Girl, take some deep breaths!!  It sounds like he's trying to throw you off and doing a terrible job at it, lol!  If I were you, I wouldn't get too worked up--he's planning to propose soon, whether it's on the vacation or right after, so you should be celebrating!  Have fun with this time and don't stress too much--it's right around the corner.  He probably has the whole thing planned out and just wanted to drive you nuts ;-)

If the proposal doesn't happen on your vaca and he still wants you to look at rings with him, I'd go do it.  He just wants to make sure you're happy ;-)

Good luck and an early congrats to you both!

I think he is trying to throw you off too.  BUT focus on a wonderful vacation and try not worry too much about it happening while you are there (just in case!).  You can re-evaluate whether or not you want to go ring shopping with him when you two get back from your trip...if you need to go ring shopping!

The important thing is that he is going to propose soon and that is exciting!  Have a fantastic vacation :)