(Closed) Confused my aquaintence/friend's request for her internship

posted 5 years ago in Career
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

So, $50/week for how much babysitting? She arrives at 6:30AM, but I couldn’t figure out when you’re dropping her off.

No, I don’t think you should do it for free. If you were close friends, sure. But it kinda sounds like she just assumed she could dump this on you.

Post # 4
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

This could be a possible lesson to your children to help out people in need, and potentially make your children a new friend.

That being said, lessons and good deeds aside, don’t do something you’re not comfortable with. 50 a week isn’t bad, but I can also see the “Do a good deed without requesting compensation” too, so I’m on the fence on that. If I were in your shoes and she had offered money, I’d accept (It would make the idea sweeter to me tbh) and if she didn’t, I still might accept.

I’d sleep on it and see how you feel in the morning. If there was a real potential for your children to make a good friend, I’d be more inclined to do it. But, if it’s going to impact your family, or make your life a lot more difficult, I’d politely decline.

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

@Khalessi3:  I’m getting the sense you don’t actually want to do this for her… Am I right on that or am I projecting because that’s a lot to ask. You would have to wake up early to babysit, and that in itself is not cool in my eyes.

Post # 9
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

@Khalessi3:  I get that. But this would be time away from the mother at your house and at the travel time between home and school. Could their not-so-strong friendship be because she just doesn’t know her that well because they don’t have a lot of chances to spend time together?

I’m just throwing out ideas here, you’ll definitely know the relationship better than I.

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

This is really a lot of her to ask from you, especially since you’re not close friends. You’ll need to completely alter your schedule, and I don’t get up early for anyone! Especially since you’ll be feeding her daughter breakfast every morning, I think it’s pretty crappy that she’s even questioning you about $50 a week for ten hours of babysitting (assuming you only have to do the mornings) and five breakfasts. It’s also weird because her daughter isn’t close with your kids — all of the kids will probably feel uncomfortable with the situation. I feel bad for her daughter.

It would be nice if you could do it and do it for free, but like I said, it’s a LOT to ask from someone that you’re not very close with!

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

And to be fair, I feel bad for the mom. I’m assuming she’s not married and she doesn’t have anyone else in her life that she is close enough with to ask to do this favor for her. And if I read the posts right, she has fibromyalgia and sleeps most of the day? She’s going to have a really hard time doing a 12 hour internship every day.

Post # 13
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

Yeah that’s kind of awkward, but I don’t think you’re asking too much. $50/week for ~10 hours of babysitting, feeding the kid breakfast every day and gas to drive her places isn’t really that excessive. Not to mention you have your own kids to care for….4 can be quite the handful I would imagine. Maybe if she complains about it you could do $150 for the month…? I don’t know, that is kind of a weird situation since you aren’t really friends with her.

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

She’s trying to use you as a babysitter… and it costs gas money to take her kid to school… so yeah, personally, I think $50 is fine. If you were buddies, then I’d say no, don’t expect anything but in this situation, she’s really asking a lot.

Post # 16
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

@Khalessi3:  What time do you usually wake up? Could you negotiate a better time that works for you? I’m not sure what time she needs to leave to get to her internship on time… maybe 6:30 AM is the latest.

Also, you could just tell her you can do it for 2 weeks, 3rd week off, then again for another 2 weeks. Something like that. Or maybe every day except Fridays. See if she can find someone else for that time.

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