Confused – no AF but no BFP either

posted 3 years ago in TTC
Post # 3
288 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@RMBsbride:  I am not TTC, but I did stop taking birth control recently.  My first two cycles were 28 days apart.  My thrid one was 32.  The last 4 have gone back to 28 days.  I think its normal to have this happen after you stop the pill. 

Post # 4
6166 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

your cycle just might be long this month.  when i came off the pill, i started 28 days cycles right away. but when i started TTC, i had a 24 day and 30 day one sneak in there.


it happens.


Post # 5
3538 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Sometimes your natural cycle just isn’t on an exact schedule.  I haven’t been on BC for over 3 years, and mine vary from 28-31 day cycles, I even had a 26 day cycle once since I’ve been tracking.  Give it a couple more days to see if she comes.  Last cycle was my first TTC and AF was 4 days “late” past when my app predicts it to show, I was testing like a mad woman!

Post # 6
165 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Are you charting?  I know exactly when she’s coming because of the temperature drop the day she arrives, which is helpful for peace of mind.  

Post # 7
352 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

@RMBsbride:  I feel your pain! I went through something very similar to you last cycle. I ended up being 7 days late. And I was in complete agony all seven days wondering what was going on with my body. If you absolutely know when you O’ed, and you’re not getting a positive result on a FRER at this point, it’s most likely going to be AF taking her sweet time. But I could be wrong!! I so wanted to be wrong when it happened to me. I couldn’t figure out why I was getting all the classic PMS symptoms but no period.

Our bodies do strange things…especially when we’re really paying attention to them! 🙂 Good luck to you!

Post # 8
1343 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

My first month off of birth control was completely normal because you typically take the placebo pills during AF… 

After that, all bets were off. My cycles were very irregular for a long time… 

I don’t want to be the bearer of bad news, but coming off of BC isn’t always as easy as it seems for some. 

Post # 9
1583 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

@RMBsbride:  The least amount of stress throws my cycles right off.  I recently was 36 days LATE (apparently I missed my period completely).  I took several preg tests and went to my doctor.  I figured it was stress related and it was.  I would say to try to relax and take a test every few days or so.  If weeks go by with nothing then go to your doctor for a blood test.


Good luck!

Post # 10
1193 posts
Bumble bee

@RMBsbride:  Do you use any sort of charting? Ovulation symptoms alone aren’t always accurate. After you ovulate, your luteal phase generally stays the same from month to month. However, the time before you ovulate (from menstruation to ovulation) can vary wildly depending on lots of factors. It definitely takes most people awhile to get back on a “regular” cycle after stopping BC.

I would highly suggest charting – its so insightful to determine whats going on with your body. Good luck – I know its such an up and down of emotions while TTC.

Post # 11
3778 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

you probably ovulated ‘late’ or later than the standard. 

Post # 12
741 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

@partyplanner83:  this

plus I was a week late once OP , this happens when you get of BC … it will take a while for your body to get back to what it was like before the BC …

Post # 14
3828 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Relax. My cycles are betwen 25 and 30 days depending on when i ovulate and how my hormone levels are. I spotted for 5 days last month before AF acutally arrived i thought i must have been preggo, nope. I just ovulated late due to travelling and she came like a thunderstorm one day. 

Stress could prolong her so try not to obsess about it. And if she really doesn’t appear at all in 3 days take a test. 

Post # 15
1927 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

definitely no need to see a doc!  For the first few months after coming off the pill, your cycle can be really messed up.  I’d wait until your period was 2 weeks late before even wondering if something is messed up!


you can start charting now to get the hang of it!

Post # 16
1677 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

@RMBsbride:  You can start charting at any time. It takes a few cycles before it’s really helpful, because it’s all about seeing patterns. I originally did not because it seemed like too much work, but after seeing the chatter about ti here on the bee, and checking out some of the galleries on fertility friend, I started myself. Now I find it neat to know what my body is doing. My temp went up after my +OPK and it’s just nice to be able to know when I ovulated instead of relying only on how I feel. We did TTC this month, so now I’m hoping for an implantation dip in the next few days. For me, at this point, it’s kind of fun. But it can get stressful for some ladies when they have difficulty or things don’t make sense. It’s about doing whatever feels right for you.

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