Post # 1
Ok my fiance and i live in NC and 95% of our wedding guests are being invited from NY because that is where we grew up and we have just recently moved here. We will not be able to have a bridal shower etc because it wil be too much traveling for everyone. Whoever comes to the wedding will have to pay for travel plus hotel. I feel like its not right to ask for gifts Should we even do a registry??
Post # 3
People travel to weddings for people they love all the time – and they still want to buy gifts – so, yes, I would still register
Post # 4
- Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry
Yes, I’ve never let the expense of traveling deter me from giving a gift, whether material or money.
Post # 5
- Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort
Yes, you should register. If people choose not to buy gifts, then so be it, but you should provide them with a registry for if they do. A lot of people want to give a gift and will be confused and possibly annoyed if they don’t have direction.
Post # 6
I live in NC and am having out of town guests coming from Michigan. I’m still registering, because many of them will still like to get me a gift. It’s expected in our families to give a little something, even if it’s not super expensive.
Post # 7
depending on where you register through they will always have the option of buying online and having it shipped to you so you won’ thave to take the gifts traveling with you.
Post # 8
We have a similar situation. We registered, but did not publish it. That way people can find out if they ask….but it’s not like we are asking for gifts! We also registered for nonmonetary gifts, like petsitting!
Post # 9
My first wedding was in NC and guests from NY, beauty of the registry is everything got shipped to my house. I was against it but in the end, you have to bite the bullet. I struggled because Im an adult and didnt need a casserole dish or potholders! I just chose ONE elegant tea service from Wedgewood (Macy’s is now the only game in town) so it worked out well and it was obvious these were not things I NEEDED to set up home.
Tiffany is another option but no registry at Bloomies or Bergdorf or Saks…
Post # 10
@MrsDulce: <– do exactly what she did – this is the proper way to handle wedding registries anyway. People will either bring small pieces off your registry, checks, or send the gifts to you before/after the wedding. Its very nice of you to think about your guests in this way, but remember that not everyone brings a gift to a wedding. Some send it afterwards, some do not. Hope that helps!
Post # 11
I’m a big fan of registries, as they let people know exactly what you want and need. It’s not greedy, it’s practical and considerate to your guests. They are going to buy a gift anyway, even if traveling, and might a well know just what you want.
Post # 12
Who says couples only receive gifts if its a close drive for the guests? LOL
Some of them may gift you money because it’s easier than bringing a gift with them.
I say register.