Etiquette Snob here.. lol
Pure and simple there is one rule on this that should supercede any others… and that comes from “Traditional Etiquette”
As a Host you get to decide the type of event you wish to hold… and that includes all manner of things like Where, When, Who, What is Served, etc.
Your Guests whom you invite have the option of attending, or declining.
There is a movement of late that permeates here a lot on WBee that Guests should be given even more consideration as to THEIR WANTS
(ie I want Alcohol – I want Vegetarian Meals – I want Adult Meals for my Children – I want to be able to bring a date… and on and on it goes)
And often you’ll read good arguments that pull on the heart strings of Hosts that they should therefore accomodate the Guests… because afterall a Good Host is considerate of their Guests needs
BUT needs are different from wants.
A considerate Host will for example whether hosting a Party at home or a Wedding Reception, will make a note to ask those that are invited if there are any dietary or health issues “that they should take into consideration”
But to reach out and make that statement is purely optional
Yes it is great if the Menu has a Vegetarian Option on it… or the Hostess has noted that you are alergic to fish so has changed the main course she had planned (which she wouldn’t have revealed to you necessarily when she Invited you or placed the phone call to ask your Dietary or Health issues)
BUT it is not a Requirement of hosting.
If one ends up at an event and doesn’t like the meal options, then you either politely eat what you can, or leave early to grab a bite on the way home.
What the Host has chosen doesn’t make them a bad host… just shows that there are people in the world who think differently than you might if you were hosting (and paying)
So ya, it ALWAYS comes down to the Host getting to decide.
Hope this helps,