Post # 1
Hey there bees…
I’m a little confused about whether or not I should get CZ over Moissy ever since a thread I read several weeks ago about CZ turning cloudy after a few months. I looked up comparisons online of CZ vs Moissy vs Diamond and so far I’ve come up with Moissy’s looking nicer in my opinion. But do Moissy’s cloud over time too like CZs?? And… Due to outside pressure…. I am still undecided. Even though I havent asked my mom yet I dont want her to think I’m being cheap over my engagement ring by choosing a non-diamond or diamond simulant stone. I’d personally rather have a CZ or moissy because it is not only cheaper, but still very beautiful and it sparkles greatly (moissy in particular, which I love)… I also like the idea that it’s more environmentally friendly than having a diamond, and I don’t have to compromise size for quality.
I already asked a friend at work what she thinks would look nicer for an engagement ring. I showed her Moissy vs CZ and she immediately got snobby with me… She flashed her $16,000 1.50ct 18k white gold diamond engagement ring to me and said basically that getting anything less than diamonds is cheap yet “not everything I have, you can have”. She told me that apparently her and her husband have already talked about how I’ve been looking at engagement rings and how her husband said I was probably too poor/not as ‘high class’ as them to get a diamond, and I’m probably not worth it anyway. I thought her comment was very hurtful and I was upset about it but I changed the subject.
However, I still find myself thinking of it. I would be very happy with cz or Moissy, but my coworker made me feel really bad for just wanting a simulant and not the real thing and then flashing her diamond like it somehow makes her better than me. She constantly talks about how no one else in our building has something as beautiful or high quality or expensive as her ring, and it drives me crazy. I mean, my mom was lucky enough to get a $15,000 solitaire ring when she got engaged and it has a higher quality + bigger stone than my coworker’s… Yet my mom doesn’t run around bragging to everyone about it and putting people down for having smaller rings. What should I do bees? I feel really hurt about this person’s harsh comments… Should I forget cz or moissy altogether and opt for a blindingly more expensive diamond? Or should I just opt for either a moissy or CZ as originally planned? Or..! Should I get Cz for everything but the centre stone and have the centre stone be moissy??? HELP!!! 🙁 I’m lost….
Also, a pic of the ring I want/am getting:
Ps: It is worth adding that I asked the jeweler who makes this ring if Moissy was better than CZ and she said it doesn’t matter because they are both diamond simulants. When I originally asked if the ring could be made with CZ and 14k white gold the cost was going to be $1500. However, with moissanite the jeweler said the cost would go up to $3250 plus the cost of moissanite (center stone)…. Ugh I’m now even more confused. I don’t want to put financial strain on my SO or I, but I love Moissy stones and I am worried about CZ clouding up (Jeweler clarified they used the highest quality CZ stones and she would recommend it over Moissy)… AGH HELP!!!
Post # 2
I think you should just order directly from the moissy co site. These jewelers are totally ripping you off. As for your co worker/friend,… well, she can eat a bag of dicks. Get what you can afford and what you love and to hell with what anyone else thinks or has to say about it.
Post # 3
I mean, should I get the ring without the center stone and buy a moissy center stone myself? Is that what you mean?
Post # 4
I would get moissanite. It is a forever stone. I have moissy stud earrings and they are really pretty. They definitely have more color than a diamond, but they aren’t a diamond or a diamond simulant. It is a a stone it’s own right and a pretty one if you ask me.
Lots of pretty moissy rings on the boards.
Post # 5
My moissanite never clouded on me for as long as I had it. I’ve owned a Wink CZ in my new ring for about two months now and I see no cloudiness. I also got the heat enhancement to make it look less see through.
Post # 6
littlewitch: Your co-worker’s comment was incredibly rude and out of line. I can’t imagine how much her words must have hurt you, and I am sorry you had to deal with someone who has that type of attitude. But I think it’s important for you to remember that your co-worker’s problem is just that: HER PROBLEM. It is not your problem, and you don’t have to buy into any of the negative and hateful things she said.
From what you said in your post, it sounds very much like you love Moissanite for its sparkle and the different qualities it can bring to your ring. If that is the case, then that is what you should get. And you should wear it proudly! I haven’t ever seen this type of stone in real life (that I know of), but I have seen some absolutely gorgeous pictures of Moissanite rings here on WB since I joined. It is a beautiful, beautiful stone. I have also seen some gorgeously amazing CZ rings in real life, so I know it is beautiful, as well.
Whatever you decide to do, please please please don’t let the hateful, narcissistic comments of small-minded people sway your decision. Enjoy the excitement of ring shopping and getting engaged, and get the type of ring YOU want. Don’t let your co-worker take that away from you. Whether it has gemstones, CZ, Moissanite, diamond … whatever … your ring will be beautiful and perfect for you. And never let anyone tell you differently. *internet hugs*
Post # 7
Firstly, try not to let that horrible woman get to you! Jesus, that’s just out of order. She has no right to talk down to others because she has a frickin diamond. The fact that she is behaving this badly because of a little ring just shows Her “class” and complete lack of it. If you feel you have the energy to tell her off, please do! She needs to be put in place and she has no right to make you feel bad because of your choice of stone! Secondly, go with what makes you happy and what you feel you want to pay! It doesn’t matter what stone or metal you choose for you engagement ring as long as you and your FI are happy! It’s silly to pay loads because you feel you have to. There are so many beautiful rings out there which are affordable. Don’t get pressured into breaking the budget because of that B***H. As for deciding between CZ and Moissy: maybe it would be a good idea to start of with a CZ? You can see how it holds up, and if you feel it’s gone cloudy after some time, it wouldn’t break the bank to swap stones.
Post # 8
I have a moissy and love it, but I’ve seen some gorgeous CZ rings, too. (Though I had the same fears about CZs, which is why I went with moissanite.)
I think whichever way you go, you should go with all the same stone (so all moissanite or all CZ). They do look a little different from each other, and I think they could look off color next to each other.
Post # 9
- Wedding: September 2014 - SPRING VALLEY COUNTRY CLUB
HappySky7: HAHAHAHA at bag of dicks!!!
Post # 10
- Wedding: January 2014 - Lizard Island, Australia
If you think you’re better than someone solely because you have something they don’t have, you are already NOT better than them. Fact. Get whatever you want don’t let someone else make you feel bad. There are some wonderful, classy, generous, kind and compassionate women who have 1.5 carat stones. There are also some total tramps with 1.5 carat stones. The point is a diamond ring is not what makes you good or not. Some people! Whatever you get will be wonderful and I hope you love it and wear it in good health x
Post # 10
HappySky7: I think I shot Mtn Dew out my nose when I read “eat a back of dicks”. LOL!
KittyNoire: That’s a great idea!
littlewitch: I, too, have a snarky person at work and I choose not to share a lot of details of my life at work. Including the fact that I have a moissanite because I don’t want to hear about it.
Post # 12
- Wedding: September 2014 - SPRING VALLEY COUNTRY CLUB
Your co worker needs to go have serval seats in an additude adjustment class, for one thing!!! Also $1500 FOR CZ seems like you’re getting ripped off.
You could get a diamond for that much.
Post # 13
Your co-worker had no right to say that crap to you. From now on I’d ignore her.
Moissys don’t cloud, they’re a forever stone, so if you don’t want to change/upgrade your ring at any point I’d recommend that. Also, they’re not diamond simulants. You should make sure you do a lot of research before getting one do you know all about it, google is your friend 🙂
Also, the jeweller is ripping you off. From what I’ve read here, when ordering moissy, online seems to be the way to go.
Post # 14
Wait, your co-worker (and someone you call a friend?!?) actually told you that you weren’t high class or “worth it” enough to have a diamond? Who the f*ck does she think she is? I’m sorry, but that woman is an awful person. Why in the world is she talking about your engagement ring with her husband? And her husband sounds like a giant douche. These sounde like terrible human beings and I would never associate with them again. They have no right to judge your choices.
I always think moissy rings looks gorgeous. I’ve never seen really high quality CZ, so I don’t know how it compares. Have you looked into asha? That’s a CZ with a diamond coating. I’ve heard that can last for a really long time too! Whatever you do, I’d keep it consistent with the ring…moissy for everything or CZ for everything. I’m sure your ring will be gorgeous!
Post # 15
That was crazy rude of your co-worker. Wow. I’m sorry you had to deal with that.
I’d advise you to look at moissanite in person and see how you like it. CZ will not last forever, it will need to be replaced eventually (I would absolutely not recommend CZ side stones). Maybe even look into a natural white sapphire (I love sapphires!) and see how you feel.
Personally, I would rather have a smaller, high quality diamond. Small diamonds are still beautiful, and since you’ve chosen such a nice and elaborate setting, it would be blingy enough.