Post # 1
Let me start by acknowledging that this is something silly to be upset over. I think I just need to vent and have some bees remind me it’s not a big deal. 😉
My brother and his girlfriend got engaged this weekend. I am thrilled – she’s awesome and our whole family has been eagerly awaiting the day they would finally get engaged. After he called to tell me on Saturday, I called her to congratulate her and welcome her to the family. She didn’t answer (She was driving through an area without much reception) so I left a message. My brother emailed pictures of the ring this morning to me and some other people, so I replied (just to the two of them) saying congratulations and how excited I was.
She never responded to either communication, which is no big deal. I just assumed she was busy with all the excitement and sharing the good news with everyone. But then I found out that when my FI emailed her today she responded to his email immediately. I don’t understand why she didn’t respond to either of my communications. I’m not asking for a long phone conversation or anything – just a quick text or email that says “Thanks! Excited to be sisters!” or even just “Thanks!”
I know it’s silly. She’s probably just busy and forgot that I called. I understand that happens. But I just feel a little bummed. = (
Post # 3
I totally understand why you’re upset. That was a crappy thing for her to do (or not to do). She should realize that she’s going to hurt your feelings by not responding. I responded to EVERYONE who congratulated me and got upset if I found out someone heard about my engagement but didn’t reach out.
the next time you see her, get in her face (with a smile) and ask if she got your messages, like you are still waiting for a response. Don’t let her get away with being so ‘caught up in the moment’.
Post # 4
Aww, I am 90% sure it is nothing personal and nothing on purpose. It’s so hard to remember when people scowl at you at work 99.99% they’re having a bad day and caught up in their own problems and aren’t reacting to you at all. She responded to some messages right away and some slipped by, it is totally normal. It’s even possible she thinks of you and FI in one breath and sort of assumes a response to one is a response to both.
Post # 5
I agree with Arachna. I completely understand why you’re hurt but I wouldn’t read too much into it, especially since it just happened this weekend.
Post # 6
I understand your reaction and I would be kinda ticked about it too…but dont think too much about it
Post # 7
I tend to think that if I have spoken to 1/2 of a couple, then the message will be conveyed to the other 1/2. She probably thought that since she talked to your fiance, he would pass along her thanks to you.
Post # 8
Thanks guys. I completely agree – it’s probably nothing personal and so I shouldn’t take it personally. That’s true too that she might think since she talked to my FI, that’s similar to talking to me. It just seems like since she’s marrying my brother, not FI’s brother or just a friend, she would make sure to contact me, rather than FI. I understand mistakes happen and I shouldn’t be hurt by it . . . it’s just one of those things easier said than done.
But thanks for reminding me it’s not a big deal! 😉
Post # 9
- Wedding: January 2011 - Vintage Villas
I’d probably be bummed too! Just remember that she has a TON of people congratulating her right now and trying to talk to her, so she’s probably really busy! I’m sure she’s very excited to be your sister! 🙂
Post # 10
I’d be bummed. IMO you should be one of the people she makes sure she responds to… But, give it a little while. She’ll probably catch up with things.