Post # 1
I see there have been alot of posts about why people choose to get married, the way things are meant to be done, etc. and they all getting fairly heated.
I think regardless of why a couple choose to get married I don’t feel like anyone else is in a position to criticise. If one person puts a great emphasis on getting married then so be it, the same as if someone else doesn’t put a huge emphasis on getting married then good for them as well!
If marriage is going to greatly change your relationship for the better then I am happy for you. If your relationship will not change after you get married then I am also happy for you.
If you choose not to live with your SO/ FI before you get married/ engaged then congratulations on how your life will change for the better. If you already live together then congratulations on sharing a home as husband and wife.
If you already have children before getting married or if your waiting to have children after marriage then I wish you well.
Regardless of the reasons why you want to get married or your other choices, nothing makes you better than anyone else. You can’t judge the level of commitment within a relationship purely through marriage, living together or children. I’m sure there are plenty of couples out there who aren’t married without children who are just as commited as those who are married with children. Just because you have one opinion does not make you better or your relationship better than anyone else’s.
So, not matter why you are here on weddingbee and no matter what values you have for yourself, I am humbled to converse with you in this HAPPY online community!
I do not want this thread to start another debate, this is just a celebration of all different relationships and their circumstances!
Post # 3
PREACH!—->You can’t judge the level of commitment within a relationship purely through marriage, living together or children.
Post # 4
Absolutely! I don’t think there is a particular “formula” for any of it! To each his/her own. Of course this post didn’t get many comments bc it’s not popular to remind these girls of what real love is and should be. It’s the way of the world sometimes. Good post girl!
Post # 5
…addition: During “salon talk” (lol) at the hair salon I go to, there was a heated debate the other day about Oprah and Stedman being together and not being married. Hey, they have been together for over 20 years, they got something figured out, right?!! It’s clearly working for them! For me, I’ve always pictured myself getting married if/when I found the right guy but I don’t have anything against women who choose not to. Why would I??!!
Post # 6
I love this post 🙂 It’s not about how anyone decides to live their life- it’s about celebrating the fact that each individual has found someone who makes THEM happy in the way that’s right for THEM. Kudos for reminding everyone of this!
Post # 7
Aww, this thread is so sweet. 🙂 I hope everyone on this site gets to live out their relationships exactly how they want to. Congratulations to all of you on your happy, committed relationships.
Post # 8
I agree, I’ve always wanted to get married so obviously that is for me but I know someone that I work with that never got married to her man and they’ve been together for years and years. Obvioulsy marraige isn’t their thing–and great for them! The only problem I have is that I’m not sure if she’s ok with me calling him her husband so I say your man is here!
Post # 9
way to go, sister! love this post! I think a lot of us have thought this but never taken the time to post it! thanks!!!