(Closed) Connecticut Massacre..lots of questions unanswered

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Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

I’ve seen a couple of reports that have said that they are not sure how his mother was connected to the school or if she was connected to the school at all. I also saw a report that said that the shooter had been pulled out of the Connecticut public shcool system because his mother was unhappy with their plans to redistrict. I think mostly it’s conjecture at this point.

I did see something very inspiring from Morgan Freeman earlier, though: 

“You want to know why {these shootings keep happening}. This may sound cynical, but here’s why.It’s because of the way the media reports it. Flip on the news and watch how we treat the Batman theater shooter and the Oregon mall shooter like celebrities. Dylan Klebold and Eric Harris are household names, but do you know the name of a single victim of Columbine? Disturbed people who would otherwise just off themselves in their basements see the news and want to top it by doing something worse, and going out in a memorable way. Why a grade school? Why children? Because he’ll be remembered as a horrible monster, instead of a sad nobody.

CNN’s article says that if the body count “holds up”, this will rank as the second deadliest shooting behind Virginia Tech, as if statistics somehow make one shooting worse than another. Then they post a video interview of third-graders for all the details of what they saw and heard while the shootings were happening. Fox News has plastered the killer’s face on all their reports for hours. Any articles or news stories yet that focus on the victims and ignore the killer’s identity? None that I’ve seen yet. Because they don’t sell. So congratulations, sensationalist media, you’ve just lit the fire for someone to top this and knock off a day care center or a maternity ward next.

You can help by forgetting you ever read this man’s name, and remembering the name of at least one victim. You can help by donating to mental health research instead of pointing to gun control as the problem. You can help by turning off the news.”

I really think there’s a lot of merit to this.

I went and read the bios that are being published and couldn’t stop crying.

The stuff that really got me were the things like one of the teachers was excited to see The Hobbit on Friday, and had made cupcakes for afterwards, decorated with pictures of the actors’ faces on top.

One of the little boys had a twin sister, who survived.

It kills me. These people had plans- stuff they were going to do. Not just in ten or fifteen years from now, or ‘one day’; they had actual concrete plans- for tomorrow, for next week.

And they’re just gone.

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

@rachelmichelle:  +1. IMO increased notoriety due to 24 hour news cycle and the Internet are the biggest driver of these mass shooting events. Many troubled people really love the idea that everyone will know their name and all about their life.

Post # 5
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I swear, I’ve been crying all day still. These poor, poor victims. No one should have to bury their child. Emilie Parks’ father’s words tore me up – such a beautiful little girl. It really breaks my heart.

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

From what I have read recently, the ATF has found no records of her taking her son to any ranges, that he had a form of autism not mental illness And his mother was retired or taking a break from her career in finance. He may have attended the school at some point…they are looking into it.

This whole thing is so tragic on both sides…these poor children (and teachers) whose lives were cut short and this young man that family, friends and acquaintances say was an A student and kind. The only one that seemed to say differently was his brother who hasn’t spoken to him in over two years….it all just seems surreal…

 

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

I don’t think it really matters why he chose that school…it won’t change what happened. It won’t bring those victims back and it won’t make the pain and grief any easier. There will never be enough answers to justify their deaths. I think that focusing on supporting the victims loved ones and each other is the best way for our energy to be spent

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2009

@StevieJo:  I agree. Each second we spend ‘glorifying’ (the media is doing this by displaying him worldwide on TV and talking about his past- his past shouldn’t matter because the children he murdered will not have a future) the shooter is a second we didn’t spend grieving and supporting those that were killed and their families.

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@StevieJo:   I agree. There won’t be an answer that brings closure/peace/understanding to anyone. No answer will be satisfying.

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Although I agree with most of what PPs said, if it were my child, I would at least want to know WHY that school or what compelled him to do it, as well as what exactly his personality disorder was…that way it could possibly be prevented by other parents in the future…however, the fact that Adam Lanza’s mother, knowing his condition, would keep SEVERAL guns in her house where he could get to them was incredibly BAD parenting and neglecting her son’s issues, in my opinion…

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@MissThespian:  Let’s not victim blame. For all we know she had them completely locked up ad he still threatened her to open the safe or something. She is allowed to own guns so she did. Plus it’s not like aspergers folks are prone to go on killing sprees so his ‘condition’, at that point, was moot. 

As for taking them on the range, that is what my father did when I was a child so I knew how powerful guns were as to not take them lightly. She actually did what a lot of responsible gun owners do. Show them how it works as a means to prevent accidents. This time it just completely backfired.

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@AcheneMalefic:  See, I disagree. I don’t think the media is “glorifying” him. No one is posting articles saying that this man was NOT in the wrong. I just posted this on another thread but I’ll copy it here- “I actually think that we need to know about these mass murderers. I think it’s important for us all to learn about their lives and what kind of people they were and what led them to do such a heinous crime. It could help people detect problematic people in their lives such as family members, friends, or co-workers that might need help.” Thus we could prevent things like this happening.

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

the fact that he might have had aspergers is going to just make everyone freak out on people who do have it. my FI has it, and he’s not violent at all. and the fact that people make assumptions about illnesses like that just pisses me off. /rant

i agree with the statement from morgan freeman. wholeheartedly. the media is partially to blame. and people should forget the killer’s name, and think of the children and adults who lost their lives and the families who are dealing with the losses. because those are the people we need to focus on, not the murderer.

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

@rachelmichelle:  The thing with the teacher who wanted to see the Hobbit really got me too for some reason. I think it was reading all the things about all of the victims and that was just the one that really made me break down. I just couldn’t stop thinking about how my boyfriend and I were seeing the movie as the shooting happened… and just the innocence of not just the children but the teachers as well.

 

I did read about the mother and her relationship with the sons… apparently the older son hasn’t spoken to his brother since 2010. Makes me think of my FI and his siblings. He knows that his older brother and especially younger sister have issues. His mother for years even would record his younger sister’s behavior because she knew something was wrong. But she NEVER did anything about it. Things got so bad with his dad and younger sister’s abuse that his mom started denying that anything was wrong with her – probably because she knew that if there was something wrong with his sister is was her own fault. His sister is a full-blown psychopath. But they do nothing…they just want to save face.

Is she capable of doing something so horrible? Absolutely. Will she? Probably not. But the behavior of his parents is similar to what I imagine this guy’s parents were like. It is completely irresponsible and selfish.. they don’t want anyone to know their daughter is crazy because they’re too self-absorbed. Its disgusting. FI had to distance himself…

 

@colorofmyheart:  There is no way he has asperger’s. That would be a lame excuse. He has a personality disorder and was a psychopath. Those are REAL diagnoses, not names you give to people you don’t like and people with these issues desperately need therapy before they do something awful like this.

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