Post # 1
I was at a wedding recently and the guy who caught the garter was just like, “Um…so what am I supposed to do with this now?” I’ve heard different things from different places. Some have the “winners” dance together. Others just hold onto it. Some the guy has to put the garter on the girl who caught the bouquet. We still haven’t decided what we’re doing in regards to tossing things, but in our family/culture, nothing happens. The guy wears the garter on his sleeve the rest of the night and the girl keeps the bouquet.
So, if you’re doing it, what happens next? What’s the norm in your area? Does what happens vary depending on who catches it (random college buddies? Dance! Grandma and his childhood friend? Not a thing)?
Post # 3
@HonoraryNerd: In our area the guy puts ther garter on the girl… its turned into a big silly show, because its usually super awkward- Sometimes the guy will just put it on her arm, but usually theyll put it on her leg.
We are forgoing the garter toss because it can get so awkward and be very distasteful if the wrong people are involved. We are doing an anniversary dance instead
Post # 4
Ours didn’t have much chance of turning too awkward because we kinda chose who would join the garter/bouquet “games”. All the men and ladies joining in were our friends from highschool and college, and all single lol.
We wanted it to be fun and the “winners” were good friends of ours and totally game for anything. We chose the game beforehand but told the host to hold off on setting it up until we’re sure the players would be okay with it. Anyway, game goes — groom had to kiss the bride in 5 places… And after each one, garter-guy would have to kiss bouquet-girl in the same place. After the last one, we cheered and clapped and took photos together haha. We gave them gift cards as prizes hahah. 🙂 it was fun and well-received by the guests, thankfully!
In recent weddings in our area/circles, it’s been more common to have these little “games” for the garter and bouquet. It seems that most people just tend to avoid catching it so the tossing isn’t fun at all!
Post # 5
In our area nothing happens. They get to keep it.
We are going to attach money to the bouquet & garter and let all of the males/females catch them, instead of just the singles.
Post # 6
I have heard that they have a dance together, but we won’t make them do anything.
Post # 7
We wanted to avoid the awkwardness of the guy having to put it on the girl’s leg so we just got our photographer to get a picture with the guy and girl who caught the garter and bouquet. Some of our more raunchy friends, who like that part of the tradition, were disappointed but we didn’t give a shit lol
Post # 8
I caught to bouquet when I was maybe 12, and my stepdad’s 3rd cousin caught the garter (he was maybe 11) and they made us dance together… super awkward! Most weddings I’ve been to lately didn’t do the toss (we didn’t at mine), or if so, they just kept the bouquet/garter.
Post # 9
- Wedding: June 2014 - Ontario, Canada ♥ EDD- April 2016
At the weddings I’ve been to, most guys just put the garter on the girl who caught the bouquet. We’re only doing a bouquet toss though, since we find the garter toss kind of awkward.
Post # 10
I have only been to weddings where the guy puts the gartar on the woman. Tossing things is silly and immature- that was skipped. I didn’t wear a gartar anywau. Served no purpose. Seeing the groom get the gartar from under his bride’s dress is gross too.
Post # 11
At the weddings I’ve been to it depends on the age of the “winner” lol. At my first wedding my cousin caught the bouquet and she was only 12 or 13. So we just had them pose for a picture. This time around, everyone is married so I doubt we will even do it.
Post # 12
i haven’t seen the garter or bouquet toss in the last 5ish weddings i’ve been to.
at my wedding, we did the anniversary dance, i had read about it but hadn’t seen it done in person yet.
Post # 13
I think you should have a few options and pick one based on who catches them. Your three options can be putting the garter on the girl, taking a photo with the bride and groom and dancing together.
My FI and I caught them at a wedding we want to so of course they made him put it on me. It was hysterical because my FI is a funny outgoing guy. If it wasnt the two of us though they said they would have done the dance.
Post # 14
I’ve heard that if you catch the bouquet you’re the one who gets married next but apart from that I’ve got no idea what happens at weddings.
Post # 15
I don’t think I’ve ever been to a wedding with a garter toss.
With the bouquet, the person who catches it gets to keep it.
Post # 16
I haven’t seen a garter tossed, in maybe 10 years? The bouquets – usually a smaller, “toss” bouquet, in about 50% of the weddings. Sometimes the single gals are so competitive, it’s ripped apart, though.