"Consequences" of catching the bouquet/garter?

posted 3 years ago in Traditions
Post # 3
1168 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

@HonoraryNerd:  In our area the guy puts ther garter on the girl… its turned into a big silly show, because its usually super awkward- Sometimes the guy will just put it on her arm, but usually theyll put it on her leg. 

We are forgoing the garter toss because it can get so awkward and be very distasteful if the wrong people are involved. We are doing an anniversary dance instead

Post # 4
45 posts

Ours didn’t have much chance of turning too awkward because we kinda chose who would join the garter/bouquet “games”. All the men and ladies joining in were our friends from highschool and college, and all single lol.

We wanted it to be fun and the “winners” were good friends of ours and totally game for anything. We chose the game beforehand but told the host to hold off on setting it up until we’re sure the players would be okay with it. Anyway, game goes — groom had to kiss the bride in 5 places… And after each one, garter-guy would have to kiss bouquet-girl in the same place. After the last one, we cheered and clapped and took photos together haha. We gave them gift cards as prizes hahah. 🙂 it was fun and well-received by the guests, thankfully!

In recent weddings in our area/circles, it’s been more common to have these little “games” for the garter and bouquet. It seems that most people just tend to avoid catching it so the tossing isn’t fun at all!

Post # 5
8680 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

In our area nothing happens. They get to keep it.

We are going to attach money to the bouquet & garter and let all of the males/females catch them, instead of just the singles.

Post # 6
9204 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2018

I have heard that they have a dance together, but we won’t make them do anything. 

Post # 7
5935 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

We wanted to avoid the awkwardness of the guy having to put it on the girl’s leg so we just got our photographer to get a picture with the guy and girl who caught the garter and bouquet. Some of our more raunchy friends, who like that part of the tradition, were disappointed but we didn’t give a shit lol

Post # 8
885 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I caught to bouquet when I was maybe 12, and my stepdad’s 3rd cousin caught the garter (he was maybe 11) and they made us dance together… super awkward!  Most weddings I’ve been to lately didn’t do the toss (we didn’t at mine), or if so, they just kept the bouquet/garter.

Post # 9
5432 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2014 - Ontario, Canada ♥ EDD- April 2016

At the weddings I’ve been to, most guys just put the garter on the girl who caught the bouquet. We’re only doing a bouquet toss though, since we find the garter toss kind of awkward.

Post # 10
1627 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I have only been to weddings where the guy puts the gartar on the woman. Tossing things is silly and immature- that was skipped. I didn’t wear a gartar anywau. Served no purpose.  Seeing the groom get the gartar from under his bride’s dress is gross too.

Post # 11
288 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

At the weddings I’ve been to it depends on the age of the “winner” lol.  At my first wedding my cousin caught the bouquet and she was only 12 or 13.  So we just had them pose for a picture.  This time around, everyone is married so I doubt we will even do it. 

Post # 12
6158 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

i haven’t seen the garter or bouquet toss in the last 5ish weddings i’ve been to.

at my wedding, we did the anniversary dance,  i had read about it but hadn’t seen it done in person yet.


Post # 13
965 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

I think you should have a few options and pick one based on who catches them. Your three options can be putting the garter on the girl, taking a photo with the bride and groom and dancing together. 

My FI and I caught them at a wedding we want to so of course they made him put it on me. It was hysterical because my FI is a funny outgoing guy. If it wasnt the two of us though they said they would have done the dance. 

Post # 14
1952 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I’ve heard that if you catch the bouquet you’re the one who gets married next but apart from that I’ve got no idea what happens at weddings.

Post # 15
3222 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

I don’t think I’ve ever been to a wedding with a garter toss. 

With the bouquet, the person who catches it gets to keep it.

Post # 16
3644 posts
Sugar bee

I haven’t seen a garter tossed, in maybe 10 years? The bouquets – usually a smaller, “toss” bouquet, in about 50% of the weddings. Sometimes the single gals are so competitive, it’s ripped apart, though.

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