Post # 1
And I have a question.
How did you let others know that you were doing a destination and it was going to be immediate family only? If FI and I decide on a destination wedding, we would not be able to include cousins, great uncles, his half siblings (that are 20 years older than him…), aunts….we probably would only have about 10 people actually come with us, and I’m not too keen on throwing a reception when we get back. We would want to go, get married, and go on a honeymoon shortly after. Did you send announcements after, before…or not at all?
I’m just nervous about others getting upset with me b/c they were not included, but let’s be serious…noone is totally happy at a wedding, anyway. We are just struggling with keeping it small and not having a day for everyone but us, since we fear that would cause us to loose sight of what is important – us being married and having a good marriage.
Post # 3
- Wedding: December 2010 - Al Cielo / La Laguna
Those reasons are exactly why we choose a destination wedding. =)
As far as how do you tell people you are having a destination wedding with family only I would say word of mouth. If you send out “hey we got engaged” anything, people might take it as a “we are going to get invited to the wedding”. After you get back send out annoucments saying something about a private/intaimate ceremony with family.
And you are always going to get people who are going to be upset that they can’t come to your wedding. I know you said you didn’t want a second reception (BTW great choice on that!) but what about a cookout or something simple after you are back. We smoothed over feelings by having a second reception and in all honesty we could have (and should have) had a backyard bbq. Everyone would have been just as happy with a whole lot less work and money. Everyone just wanted a way to celebrate with us, even if it was just a bbq and some beer.