- 4 years ago
- Wedding: June 2014
Right now I have 6 BMs, all friends from high school and FI’s 2 sisters. I don’t see them much because we go to school all across the country. My freshman year I lived in a dorm suite with 5 other girls. I became good friends with two and one is in my major and we have had every class together the past 3 years. When FH and I got engaged last year I didn’t ask her to be a BM because I had known her for just over a year and she lives 3 hours from where the wedding will be and I didn’t want her to feel obligated to attend any wedding events. Well she is the most excited for the wedding and has gone to bridal shows with me at school. I see and talk to her more than any of my other bridesmaids. I don’t want her to feel obligated to try on dresses, go to the shower or bachelorette party or feel awkward since she doesn’t know any of the other BMs and they all know each other. Should I ask her and let her know I don’t expect her to go to these events or find another role for her? Any advice appreciated! Thanks.