Post # 1
Well ladies I am already one stressed out bride and we’ve been engaged for about a month. Everyone has different opinions on what a wedding is, but no one stops to tie into how the economy is doing and what we need to do to pull off a wedding right now. I originally was going to have a wedding fall into a budget of about 4,000 but then we realized we’d be spending a ton more money to go on a honeymoon as well (at least a few thousand).
Plus does anyone get the feeling that they had planned to do things on the wedding day that were really more for the people coming than for you and your fiance? I realize people come to your wedding (especially those traveling far) and you should do something for them. But I feel like it’s turned more into doing things for everyone else. We have absolutely no plans set into stone, so absolutely nothing to loose, it’s just in the phase of getting our idea in order.
My FI is all on board with anything including a smaller party of guests, we obviously have our must thave people like parents siblings and grandparents. It is pretty much up in the air otherwise.
So what do you all think?
Has anyone here done a court house wedding and something very simple with family after? Did you love it? Did you regret it?
Post # 3
Ours isn’t a courthouse wedding but we did downsize our wedding drastically back in August. We originally were having a wedding with 80 guests and the whole deal with a DJ and everything. Now we’re having 24 people (including us) for a small ceremony in a park and then having a dinner reception in a restaurant. We cut our budget in half. I can let you know next week how it goes since it’s Sunday but it was so much less stressful and less expensive to plan. We also strongly considered eloping just the two of us then having maybe a barbecue at home but our parents really wanted at least a little something.
Post # 4
I had a courthouse wedding. My wedding was turning into a circus and everyone was having an opinion about it. In the end we couldn’t afford and were not willing to go into debt for what would essentially be a huge party. And no one was helping financially.
So we went and got married at the courthouse with only our friends witnessing. It bothers our family, but for us it was right. Everyone was being unsupportive and I didn’t want to deal with it anymore. I don’t need a big party and a $3,000 dress to be with my husband, I just wanted to get married.
I felt a huge sense of relief after it was over and we could just start our lives.
Post # 6
I would have loved to elope or have a courthouse wedding, but my husband wanted the “big wedding” so we compromised and had a small wedding. I say go for it, as long as the wedding isn’t that important to you.
Post # 7
have you thought destination wedding? sounds like its right up your alley – you can invite who you want but no one is expected to come and they pay their own way. i sometimes wish i would have gone this route – i was super jealous when i was on my honeymoon and watched a few different brides marry on the beach and then stroll the resort afterward.
Post # 8
i have a second chance at planning my wedding and many of the things i thought were important (dress, 200 people, dessert bar) just don’t seem important anymore.
Post # 9
@KatyElle: So well said.
@totheislnds: We have been considering a Disney wedding, since that is where we met and fell in love. We were Professional Interns on the same internship there. I’m not sure if doing a Disney wedding is really going to be a truly affordable route. It’s not off the table yet though.
@Mollytov: That’s totally how I feel. It’s just not that important, and rather rediculous.
So I guess it’s either court house or destination for us. I really don’t want to regret it later, or feel like we didn’t do it the right way. I don’t know. :/
Post # 10
I LOVE THIS POST! I am in the same situation. This economy is horrid and I just cant allow myself to let my parents pay some 20k, that they dont have, for 6hrs. The important thing is that I marry the man I love and that I spend that special day with the family and friends that are truely important to me. Why can’t this be at a courthouse or backyard? It is what makes sense to me right now.
I do, find myself getting extremely emotional at times when i think about my dad not being able to walk me down the aisle at a courthouse and missing the first dance as a couple and the father/daughter dance but i think it will all be ok. I am just sooo happy that I am not the only one thinking these things and going through this. Thank you sooo much to all of you posting!!!! Please keep me posted on your weddings!
Post # 11
@brittany2241: It is nice knowing I am not the only one in the same situation. Unfortunately FI cringes at the idea of a courthouse wedding. He just isn’t interested in it at all. We had thought destination wedding for a while which we were able to keep or minimal guest list and not spend a fortunate for it to be in a nice place. However, it looks like I may be getting a new job in the upcoming months and then I may not be able to take off to do the destination. We are still desperately searching for another option thats local that doesn’t break the bank or become rediculous. This is really truly frustrating.
Post # 12
We’re having a very small wedding. We found a bed and breakfast that has wedding packages and we’re limited to a small number of guests. It’s great because it’s less vendors to find and less to plan, plus it forces us to keep numbers down. You could look around your area to see if there are B&B’s or other places that have things like this. It could give your fiance the non-courthouse wedding yet give you both some of the ease of a small, destination wedding. Our place with the package is actually more affordable than if we were doing it all on our own.