Post # 1
So, I’ve been a contracted employee for a company for three years and yesterday I received a job offer from the company. When I first began working there this is exactly what I wanted. As time passed, though, it looked like this would not be a possibility so I changed the path I was taking, enrolled in school to finish my degree while working, and then expected I would find employment elsewhere as there would be no room to grow in my current position.
Well, the company acquired another facility and there has been a position created that will utilize my current skills, the degree I’m working toward, open up certain certifications to me, and give me a path to corporate management.
The two things that give me pause in accepting the offer are how I believe my coworkers (contracted through the same company) will feel/react, and that this extends the timeframe that it would take to pay off my student loans after graduation. The benefits are AMAZING compared to what I have now, and would essentially amount to a raise in just that aspect.
I guess I’m just worried that my current coworkers will feel betrayed and be angry that I have jumped the gap and become an employee when they will probably never have the same opportunity.
This topic was modified 2 years, 9 months ago by WifeyGtoBe. Reason: punctuation/spelling
Post # 2
Please, please, PLEASE do not make career decisions that can impact the rest of your life based on hypothetical hurt co-workers’ feelings.
It doesn’t matter what they think. This was an opportunity given to you by people with the power to make such decisions. That they chose you over Co-Worker X and Co-Worker Y isn’t your “fault” and isn’t something to feel bad about.
Plus, if these co-workers have a good relationship with you, they should be happy for you. If they’re butthurt and rude about it, well too bad, they’re not worth worrying about then anyway.
Post # 3
are you crazy — take it!!!!
one of these coworkers who you are so loyal to would do the same to you in a minute if they got the chance. I don’t want to sound cold but you have a responsibility to you, your family, your FI/DH not a co-worker. You made the steps to get more education and obviously must have shown your superiors that you are a great worker – they all could have done the same.
Post # 4
WifeyGtoBe: How would this job extend the repayment of student loans? Does it pay less?
If the benefits are better than you have now, would that not free up money to go towards your student loans?
Ditto the pp’s- other people’s feelings are not your problem.Be polite and gracious to them, but move head with your own career.
Post # 5
Don’t wory about them- worry about yourself. It seems like something great just fell into your lap. Congratulations!
Post # 6
TAKE IT!! Congratulations, darling!
Post # 7
None of your co-workers would turn down the offer just to avoid upsetting you. It’s business. Take the offer. Prepay your loans along the way.
Post # 8
TheGridMonster: You are right…the manager that I work closely with is the one who has offered me the position based on how she and I work together and our shared thinking as to how the program should function. Thank you for your input, I did not think of it that way when the offer was put to me.
littlemisshostess: Thank you, I worked really hard from the beginning to do my job effectively and I never dreamed that this would come of it. You’re right, they WOULD take it, if it was offered simply because it is an amazing opportunity.
julies1949: It would be a lateral opportunity, pay-wise. I had a plan on paper that after graduation, I would leave the company I’m currently with and be able to work a full-time position at a hospital (three 12 hr shifts) which would allow me to work another one or two shifts either in overtime or as-needed at my current job.
Theoretically, the extra shifts would have gone straight toward paying down the student loan debt and it would have been paid off in about half-2/3 of the time. Taking this job will make it impossible to take on extra shifts in that way. We will still be able to make the minimum payment plus a bit additional. It just throws off my plan, which scares me a bit.
greenie318: Thank you! I think I have a habit of not worrying about myself as much as I should.
damarajade: Thank you! I believe this will be a huge stepping stone in my career.
Horseradish: You’re right, they wouldn’t. And it is business. I need to keep reminding myself that.
Thank you everyone! My SO and I discussed it a bit more this morning and I’m going to take it. It’s the smartest thing to do at this point, and I’m pretty excited about this opportunity!
Post # 9
WifeyGtoBe: Is the new position a Monday to Friday 9-5 type job?
You may not be able to work extra 12 hr shifts, but sometimes if they are short, could you offer to pick up an 8 hr shift on your days off?
Post # 10
It is M-F, and a salary position so I would anticipate about 45 hours/week. I think I could probably pick up an 8 hour shift on the weekends if we don’t have weekend plans and my daughter and SO are on board.
It’s doable. I think I’m just scaring myself about how this situation is different than my on-paper plan.
Post # 11
WifeyGtoBe: Good grief. Do not worry about the co-workers and how they will feel! An attitude like this could seriously hold you back in your career. I suspect it is more prevalent in females, this worry about people liking you versus getting ahead in your career.
I did work in a place once where they hired a lot of 30-hour a week (non-benefit) people to work alongside and do the same job as full-time, benefited employees. Very rarely, one of us part-timers would be promoted to full time, and yes, there were some feelings of why that person vs me? So I understand the social dynamic. I saw jealousy, but I didn’t buy into it. I told myself that it was the company that was treating everyone unfairly by having the “part-timers” and our anger should be at the company, not jealousy toward a co-worker who got hired full time.
Jump at this chance. If someday, in this job or another, you are offerred the opportunity to be a manager or supervisor, take the plunge and do not sit around thinking: Now my friends won’t like me because I will be their boss.
Are you going to turn down every promotion because it will make someone else unhappy?
Post # 12
You can’t take resoponsibility for other people’s feelings! This sounds like a wonderful opportunity for you–go for it!
Post # 13
Maybe your co-workers do not have the management skills the company knew you had. The position is pretty much customized to match your education and skills – take it !
When I was offered my current job, my manager hired me without going through the whole HR process, which is against their usual policy. She wanted to offer me a full-time position right away, but her boss warned her it might upset other coworkers who have been working there for years. She didn’t want me to appear as a ”threat” to them, but she wanted to hire me and no-one else. I want the job enough that I am ready to compromise on the hours the first few months so I can slowly make my way into the team, working directly for the manager, while completing a degree that’s related to the job. Short-term, it did disappoint me a bit. Long-term : I believe it’s a very good strategic move and my gut is telling me it’s worth changing my paper plans for a while just so I can garantee myself even greater opportunities ahead.
Take the job, it sounds like the only thing that keeps you from it are your own insecurities related to your coworker’s reactions and the fact you will need to adjust your budget, but you can still take a part-time job later.