Post # 1
On Saturday my fiancee backed a uhaul truck into a restaurant window. This is going to cost us probably $1000+. I want to cry.
I have come to the realization that we probably can’t afford our wedding this September. I feel like I want to throw up.
My bridal shower invites have already been sent.
We already just spent $400 on our invitations for this September and made several deposits that are non refundable.
I don’t know what to do. I feel totally lost.
This isn’t what I was expecting when I dreamed about my wedding as a kid, I thought it would be such a magical experience and here I am on the verge of tears.
Post # 3
wow. sorry to hear that.
you might be able to talk to your vendors and explain to them the situation. most if not all would allow you to pick a different date next year, provided they would still “do” your wedding.
as for invites, have they been printed already? if not, you can call customer support and probably cancel the order…
hope this helps. and most of all, i hope everything will work out for you!
Post # 4
Oh no! -hugs-
Maybe you could ask your parents or FI’s parents? Or do some super-crunched budget so you can save every penny. I’m upset reading your post 🙁
Maybe your vendors will be reasonable if they hear what has happened. I really hope everything works out for you.
Post # 5
if you give us your detailed budget, maybe we can all come up with a way to save $1000 from your overall cost
Post # 6
If it’s only $1000, that isn’t too bad for a wedding in September. (I don’t really mean to say “only” in a flippant way, but saving $1000 by September isn’t impossible). Can you borrow the money from anyone? Is there anything you can cut from your budget? Any extra hours to pick up at work, or small jobs?
Post # 7
Don’t worry! You can make it happen… $1000 ish is doable.. I agree with @ItsHollyAgain look for extra jobs on the weekend, doing promos/events you can make like $100+ each, or if you bartend or babysit, or have some random stuff you can sell on craigslist? It sounds like it might be more than $1000 in losses if you change the date…
Wasn’t there insurance for the Uhaul? Or for the restaurant?
Post # 8
I’m sorry you’re going through this.
I do agree with PP’s that $1000 is totally doable. You might really have to cut back on some things you otherwise might not.. or cut somewhere in your wedding budget, but you can do it!
If you feel that your budget is already too tight, I would suggest talking to your vendors as PP suggested, some of them might be willing to reschedule, providing you are still wanting to have a wedding. I’m sure most vendors would like to host your event instead of just keeping a deposit.
Post # 9
Agree with PPs that you totally have time to either save up $1000 or cut it from your budget! Especially if you have non-refundable deposits, you could end losing nearly $1000 by cancelling.
I was looking through your recent posts to get ideas on where to cut $$ from, and it seems like it should be pretty easy to do. You said you’re planning on buying your FI a Lay-z-boy chair for the wedding/his birthday…well, I’d say he can wait a bit longer for that since his goofup is what’s causing your current problem. You also posted a month ago about him having a ‘secret money stash’, which while that would kind of concern me, sounds like it’s time for him to dip into that to pay for the window he broke. And you were adding on a trip to Australia to your Fiji honeymoon – you could cut that and visit Australia some other time.
Post # 10
@Wonderstruck: You’re so thorough in your reply! 🙂 +1 for finding ways to make it real to the OP! 🙂
Post # 11
time to get creative!
try some of these and i’m SURE you’ll come up with $1000
– craiglisting some stuff you don’t need/want
– your fi can mow lawns/look for casual landscaping/construction odd jobs on craigslist
– walk dogs/babysit kids etc
– invite your FI to ask for overtime at work since he got you into this mess :/
– stop making a habitual purchase: ie – if you both get starbucks that’s 5 dollars a day – so give that up but STILL put that 5 dollars a day in a jar. if you do that 3 days a week for 3 months it equals 180 dollars.
– if you or your fi drinks/smokes/buys lotto – those are easy ways to cut back – and again, instead of leaving it in the account where someone will spend it, withdraw the 20 you would have spent on beer and put it in a jar/envelope for the wedding.
Post # 12
@Wonderstruck: thanks for that. I have pushed the honeymoon to Novemberalready – we won the flights so we actually must use them by December or they expire. the Lay-Z-Boy was just an idea, an idea that isn’t happening. His “secret money stash” has definitely diminished since hardcore saving happened for the wedding. (at least I think)
Post # 13
i managed to cut down my budget to only $4500.
The Wedding cake. Will just have them make a small cake on the dessert table instead.
Wedding singer for the ceremony. Will use a recording instead.
Rehearsal dinner – will just do pizza or something & drinks at my moms house instead.
Savings $650 +
The band – this hurts my heart in a big way.
The Jam favors
The moon photobooth
The thing that bothers me the most is that I have no favors for our guests and no live music 🙁
Post # 14
@bretonvirgniia: We bought some tulle circles and ribbon from a craft store (to make our own favor bags) and will put some hershey kisses in each one. The total cost for the tulle circles and ribbon (enough for 175 bags) was $31. You can still have reasonably priced favors 🙂
Post # 15
@s2bmrscook: that’s true. the moon photobooth was going to be the “favor” but we can’t afford it.. we were also going to make homemade jam ourselves which would have cost about $100
Post # 16
@bretonvirgniia: I may get some flak for this, but I think the homemade jam is plenty. It’s very thoughtful and requires more effort on your part than just paying someone to stand at a photobooth for your guests to go in and take pictures. I’ve seen lots of Bees say they prefer edible favors anyway!