Post # 1
My FI and I are deciding when we might start trying to start a family. He would like to start right away but I’m concerned about a couple things one being my job.
I’m wondering if you considered work and your work schedule when deciding when to try. For me personally, the time of the year when I would ultimately want to get pregnant might not be really the best time to give birth work-wise. I work in politics so I get really busy from August to November every year but especially in Presidential years like 2012. Should this matter? Would it be wrong of me to only TTC in months that would work best for work? Should I plan having a family around work or make work work around me? Is anyone else thinking about something similar? Thanks!
Post # 3
I only considered work in the sense that I wanted to have been at my job for at least a year before TTC, both to ensure FMLA eligibility and because I thought it would “look” better.I won’t really think about work when we try to have our second kid- for one, we didn’t get pregnant right away, and that was frustrating enough without having to think about skipping months. Also, I had the worst pregnancy. I was miserable the whole time, and I hated it. I missed a lot of work, and was way underproductive for a long time. Now I have an infant, but I’m doing way better at 10 weeks postpartum than I was at 7 weeks, or 35 weeks, pregnant. So just keep in mind that even if you plan things out, your needs/preferences may change.
Post # 4
You can TRY to plan it, but really there is no telling how long it will take you to get pregnant, so all that planning could be for naught. If you are ready to have a baby, just get to it and figure out the timing when you know what the actual timing is! It took my husband and I 8 months plus one miscarriage to finally get pregnant, so if we had been planning around anything specific, it wouldn’t have mattered.
Unless of course you are willing to just not try for certain months, knowing that IF you got pregnant it would be bad for work. That’s really the only way to be sure.
Whatever you decide, good luck!
Post # 5
I think it’s smart to consider your whole situation (work obligations definitely included) when deciding when to TTC. If you are super busy during the fall months, especially during presidential election years, it makes sense to avoid giving birth during that time. Now, obviously, you can’t always choose your delivery dates, and there are lots of unpredictable variables that could adjust your timeline, but you have to plan off of what you know right now.
My husband works a lot of hours in the summer, and that has definitely played a factor in our decision of when to start trying for a second baby. I’ll need him around more with two little ones than I did before, so it’s really important to me that our next baby is not born during his busy summer months.
Post # 6
I agree. You can try for certain month, but you’d be better off avoiding in certain months. It took me a year to get pregnant. I’m 30. My age may or may not have been a factor. Some younger women have problems, some older women don’t.
I teach and the best time for me to be pregnant and have the baby would be the summer…I’m due in Sept. I didn’t try for that time because it rarely works that way.
Post # 7
I’m in a similar boat to you. Would like to give birth after job interview season for my field ends next year, since job interviews will require a full day on my feet and a round-trip flight. If I do land a new job, I would also like to give birth before the new job would begin. For my field this gives me about a 4-5 month window of time in which I would *ideally* give birth. Unfortunately, I’m 100% aware that you can’t necessarily time these things that accurately, so I’m trying to just be laid back about it… but I might be less laid back in a few months if I’m still not pregnant in our “job window”. Good luck!!
Post # 8
We didn’t plan it but our baby was born at the beginning of summer which was perfect because my husband is a teacher and will be out of school for a few months.
I don’t think there’s any problem with trying to avoid certain months if you’re just starting TTC since you don’t know how easily you may get pregnant. If you wait till April you’ll miss out on the busy time for your work – although you may not want to be 8-9 mos pregnant and be swamped at work.
Post # 9
I don’t think it could hurt to try planning it around work, I just wouldn’t be too upset if it doesn’t happen how you like it. These things just aren’t that plannable.
Post # 10
I think it is good to consider work… because there are certain times of the year that you might be busier or more stressed out so you might not want to be pregnant. And you might want to plan either the beginning of the pregnancy (when you feel sick but can’t tell anyone) OR the end of your pregnancy (very big = very tired) around your busy time.
BUT definitely keep in mind that most of the time it doesn’t really work out the way you plan. It’s good to plan but make sure to stay flexible so you don’t get disappointed if it doesn’t work out!