- 4 years ago
I’ve recently found the Wedding Bee site and have been lurking for awhile but I really feel as if the time has come for some advice/tough love (I know some of you love to give tough love!). I am freaking out here.
I currently live in Australia. FI’s and my family are all in the UK – 10,000 miles away. Because we want as many people as possible to share our day with us, we decided to get married in the UK next winter. We went back to the UK in the summer, but couldn’t find a venue that we liked whilst we were there. A couple of weeks later my parents found a venue in the part of the country we wanted to get married, sent the link to us and we both fell in love with the place. Ok, so we haven’t seen it in the flesh but my parents were good enough to take some videos and send them on to us and the wedding planner has been brillant too! It’s just beautiful. Both sets of parents loved the place too…or so I thought…..
…..5 weeks later and I’m on Skype (just this weekend gone) and my parents asked if we had made a desicion or found anywhere else that we wanted to get married. I said that we had decided to go with the our favourite – the place they visited and sent us the videos of. My mother then pulled a face and said that she thought that it would be too cold (we’re getting married in Scotland), it’s too big, it’s not personal enough. I was crushed – have my heart sent on this place.
This is not the first time that my parents have questioned desicions that we have made on the wedding:
The first venue that we wanted “just isn’t you zsa_zsa”
We’re getting married in Scotland as FI is Scotish (my parents are English and want me to get married in England) and are not that thrilled about the idea of Scotish wedding.
I wanted to have my Uncle/Godfather as our Toastmaster for the day (he’s qualified and looks after VIPs/diplomats etc. regulary) – My Dad said that he didn’t want him to be the Toastmaster because he “doesn’t want it to be the zsa_zsa’s uncles show”
Guest List: “No good inviting so-and-so, they won’t come!” – WTF?
They seems to have an opinion on everything and It’s making me think that I cannot plan this wedding myself without running everything past them first for approval. I understand that they have an idea of what they want the wedding to be like, but cut me some slack – this is our wedding.
The FFIL thinks that everything is too expensives (even though we can afford the wedding that we want ourselves). He is even complaining about the price of drinks at the reception – it’s one day and it’s really not going to break the bank.
I know the most important aspect of our day is to get married and that nothing else matters. But every bride must have an idea on how they want their day to be. This is supposed to be a fun/happy party of our engagement. I feel constantly judged by both sides.
At this stage, I don’t even want to plan my own wedding. I feel sad.