Contact Ex?

posted 2 months ago in Relationships
Post # 16
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322 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2018 - Emerald at Queensridge

I think you deserve a lot better, Bee. There are literally thousands, probably even millions, of guys out there who wouldn’t do this to you. 

Post # 17
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1866 posts
Buzzing bee

someday1 :  

I agree with everyone that said let it go…

Here is the thing – any decent person will agree it is harder to break up with someone you care about than be dumped. I suspect he strung you a long..not necessarily intentionally, but he go so caught up in it, finally he needed to cut the cord…

You are both on all the dating sites – as much as you are seeing him, he is seeing you.

I know it is easy to justify any number of reasons/ways to reach out, but just don’t. I know, I have been there…and I have done that…the only thing it resulted in long term was a loss of self respect on my part! 

I am sure now, you are meeting guys (or not meeting in person) because you are hung up on your ex, comparing these guys to your ex, etc. Try and let it go and put yourself out there…don’t have any expectations, just go…

Post # 18
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259 posts
Helper bee

someday1 :  I was in your shoes except we had been together 3.5 years, were living together, and were engaged for real. He broke things off moved out and I had to cancel my wedding. I was 36. I had begged him to stay. I was obsessed w contacting him but my friends would wrestle the phone out of my hands when I would talk about it. I really forced myself to stay away from him and honestly it was the best way to handle things. I wrote him no less than 50 letters but never sent them. You cannot contact him if you truly want to heal and move on. I know it is brutally hard I really do. Six months after the breakup I met my FI. One year after that I got engaged which was Valentines Day. Now I’m so happy that I met a real man. 

Post # 19
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289 posts
Helper bee

When someone toxic leaves your life, it opens you up for someone wonderful to come to you. I bet something wonderful is coming for you. 💕 Be patient!  

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