- 6 years ago
- Wedding: May 2013
First off….I hope I do not offend anyone. That is not the point of this post.
After I became engaged, it hit me. I need to reconnect with church because this is the beginning of the rest of our lives. I always said that I would raise my family in the church so I needed to take my first step. I visited a few churchs and felt really comfortable at one and after a few months, I joined. A few months after that, we decided that we did want a church wedding (completely opposite when wedding planning started).
Fast forward 6 months….
Last weekend I went out of town and could not attend my church services. My friend called me yesterday and informed me that she would not be attending our church until the pastor’s views changed. After further conversation, our pastor said that he believed in same sex marriage. My friend asked the pastor to come to her house after service so that she and her husband can get some clarity from him on what he said during service. He stood firm in his statement. He said that he does not look at it as a sin. His personal beliefs are not the issue, but when you preach something that is not in the bible, that bothers me. If homosexuality is not a sin (in my pastor’s eyes) then what about fornication and adultery? Where does it stop?
My personal thoughts on same sex marriage is why not? They are in love just as I am and should be afforded the same opportunities to profess their love. This is my personal opinion. I would never in a million years say that the bible does not consider this a sin.
Up until yesterday, this was the place that I worshipped and loved. I love my pastor and church family. My fiancee and I go as a family and we are trying to instill in our son the importance church. How am I supposed to teach him the bible, but then have him in church and hear that homosexuality is okay? I am supposed to receive premarital counseling from my pastor in a few months but right now I am conflicted. How can I take his counseling when he is openly going against what is written in the bible. Where does it stop? Tomorrow will he be saying that marrying more than one woman is okay? Or that adultery is not a sin anymore? The bible cannot change to suit peoples needs and I am seriously contemplating leaving the church and not getting married there anymore. This is highly upsetting to me because I go to church for clarity not confusion.
Is this an issue that would make you leave your church?
Again…sorry for the length of this post.