Post # 1
So, my poll seemed pretty evenly split between August 20 (anniversary) and July 9 (random date, but away from the start of grad school). My fiance and I have been talking about what to choose…because, we can’t really plan anything without our date. Well, we came up with a question…so I’m turning to the bees!
If we choose July 9, 2011 and book a venue…then we see that August 20, 2011 will work out after all…how likely is it that we’ll be able to change our date with that venue? And, if we cannot change our date with that venue…will we have to lose a lot of money to go elsewhere? I’m sure its different depending on the venue…but give me your best guess. 🙂
Oh, I added a poll because I know there are bees that like to respond on polls but may not always comment.
Post # 3
If you want to go with August 20, then I would wait until you are sure that date will work so you don’t have to chnage your plans. It is very likely that you will lose your deposit if you change the date and they can’t guarantee that another date will be open with them.
Post # 4
I think it would depend on the site. My site told us we can change our date with no penalties, but they would have to have the date open. If I chose a different site after putting a deposit down, then I would lose my entire deposit. I think this would be a question for the site you’re looking at, they may have their own policy.
Post # 5
It’s quite possible that the date would already be booked. It is also possible that you would lose your deposit. Keep in mind that it’s not just the reception facility that you will have issues with… it’s the florist, DJ, cake person, officiant, etc.
Post # 6
How hard or easy it would be would really depend a lot on how popular your site is, I think, plus how early on you decide to try and change it. If you set it for July 9 now and try to change it in the next couple of months, it would likely be no big deal… but if you’re thinking of waiting until after you know for sure about grad school (like next spring sometime) I think it could end up being quite difficult.
Post # 7
Ask your potential venue!
Our date was decided because I found a venue I liked and said “when are you open?”
And then suddenly we were getting married 4 months earlier than expected.
Post # 8
depends on your contract! so check out the wording and ask them. some its easy some its VERY hard…
Post # 9
I agree with eva- you’re going to have way more than the venue to change, and in all likelihood you won’t find out about grad school until March at the earliest. I stick by what I said in the earlier thread, you can’t wait until you find out about grad school to book things. I heard from about my final application on May 1st. What if your schools take that long? You would only have 2 months to plan for the July date. And if you do get in, you will be facing the stress of moving, grad school orientation, and having a wedding (I’m assuming not in the grad school’s city- so travel too) all at the same time. In my program, you can’t just take a day off. It is a serious thing to miss a class or meeting- they told us that we better be on our death bed before we even think about it. I know it must feel terrible to have to give up your prefect date, but please believe me you will be so much happier if you do!
Post # 10
That sounds way too risky for me, I would just go with the August 20th date. It’s got the sentimental value behind it and like you said, a once in a lifetime thing for your anniv to fall on a Saturday for a wedding date. You would be heartbroken if you picked the first date and then decided on the August and it wasn’t available. Better safe than sorry! Also, as far as the grad school thing I would rather have my wedding on that date and grad school will just have started. You’ll be fine, go for Aug and don’t wait!!
Post # 11
I would honestly make my list of grad schools to apply to before proceeding any further. You’ve got to have some idea of where you want to apply, right? It will take you less than a week to review the programs of schools you’re interested in if you devote yourself to it, and from there you can check out their academic calendars and decide whether Aug 20 will be cutting it too close. As soon as you’ve done that–voila, no more headaches and worrying. You may very well be able to have your wedding on your special date, or you’ll at least know that it won’t work you because, say, three of the schools you applied to start on the 22nd, or whatever.
Post # 12
Thanks, everyone. It is all good advice and all very different advice. My intent was not to repeat my last post…we were just curious about changing our venue to a later date if it became possible. A lot of our bookings won’t be a big deal. We’re doing a lot ourselves or with help from friends/families. I didn’t think about that though and it will apply to photography and the like. Thanks for the advice, bees! 🙂
Post # 13
I know that with our venue we couldn’t change our date. (Without losing monies….)We also are having our day on July 9, 2011. 🙂