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I am going to make a poll, but if you'd like to post feel free. I just want to know how everyone is preventing pregnancy. I just got married 10 days ago and am on the pill. We don't want to TTC for another two years, for now. Sorry for this question, but do you not let him ejaculate inside of you, even on the pill? Does anyone use the natural method? How does that work?
I use birth control pills plus spermicidal film (turns into a gel on your cervix - both chemical and physical barrier).I got pregnant using just the pill and taking it perfectly, so now we double up.
The natural method won't work for you if you are on the pill (since the pill stops ovulation, you won't be able to track ovulation symptoms).
The only way you can truly prevent an unwanted pregnancy is to abstain. I got pregnant with my first child on the pill, so I suggest you use two forms of whatever birth control you are comfortable with, if you truly want to wait the two years.
@crayfish: Yeah, I know that you can't do the natural method and pills. I just wanted ot learn more about it. I'd switch if it were ideal. Thanks for the info.
@hotwings: oopps..Adding it now
DH and I just use the pill and don't worry about him pulling out at all. We aren't planning to have a baby for a few more years but if we did get pregnant while I'm on the pill, it wouldn't be a big deal. So no need to try to be "extra" cautious in my book!
@PrncssDva: You have pulling out on the poll twice so you can put IUD in place of one of those!
@noritake22: I have been married for 10 days...so abstaining is not an option for a married couple, lol I am just trying to get opinions. I know nothing, but that is 100% .Thanks for your response. :)
I have been on hormonal BC for years and have never had a close call with it. I'm using Nuvaring now so I don't have to worry about taking a pill at the same time every day.
@Mrs.KMM: Yeah, if it happens it just does. Ideally, we just want to wait.
I have messed up the poll. I couldn't take off one of the IUD's because someone had already voted for both. LOL
I have gotten preg. on the paraguard IUD then my 2nd one fell out. I've heard a lot of women complain of heavy bleeding w/ the mirena IUD. So whichever method you choose you just have to be ready to possibly be that 1% failure rate.
@AngelS: WOW.....I've heard about those failure rates even with pills
@PrncssDva: I've been on BC for 7 years now, works great for me.
Another thought - maybe you could add "condoms+BC (used together)" to your poll. DH and I did this for most of our relationship (up until a couple months before we got married).
@MissAsB: The first thing that came to mind was that commercial "Monday Tuesday Wednesday Thursday Friday Saturday everyday..ahahhhhhhh."
@KatNYC2011: I've been on for less than a year.
@Mrs.KMM: Will do. Thanks :)
I've been on the Nuvaring for years and I love it. Its so easy and I really haven't experienced any side affects. In my time I've tried birth control pills (cant stomach them), Depo Provera shot (loved it but gained alot of wait), the Patch (loved it until I started having a really bad skin reaction to it) and now the Nuva Ring. My FI has a vasectomy so its not really an issue of not TTC but just that I have Adenomyosis and my cycles are brutal. My doctor told me I could keep changing my Nuva Ring out every month and not have a cycle until I was ready for my hysterectomy.
@PrncssDva: I was "active" from the start of taking it. After you've gone through your first cycle they say no additional protection is necessary unless you miss doses. Although nothing is 100%.
@Cheeks11: Is it not a hassle to put that in yourself?
@KatNYC2011: I haven't missed any doses
I've noticed that most ladies are on the pill and don't worry about pulling out.
pill + condom. I don't have health insurance for pregnancies so using both makes me feel better!
I have the mirena IUD because I wanted something that didn’t require much work on my part (yeah, I’m lazy, and?! heehee) and because my GYN said statistically its more reliable than sterilization and she personally recommended it (I love my doc!). I don’t want any “oops” before I choose to get pregnant.
In the past I've had issues with several kinds of bc pills and the patch, and an upside of Mirena is I don't get my period anyhow, which is pretty awesome!
@PrncssDva: All you have to do to insert it is fold it in half and push it in. You don't have to shove it far in, it will naturally find a place to rest where you don't feel it.
@CorgiTales: That's a pretty good reason :)
@gabrielleelise1981: No period..ROCKS!!
@PrncssDva: At first it was a little awkward getting to know yourself like that but after a few months I was a pro at it. Its so convenient that it was totally worth it to me. Now FI has said that at times he can feel it but according to the directions you can take it out for up to an hour or two? and place it back in without any interruption if that's ever an issue for your partner.
Mirena is great in terms of contraception, it's so easy, and 99.9% effective. It's great if you don't want to TTC for a while, and it's almost "idiot proof." It does have downsides- (sorry if TMI) I bled almost every day for the first six months, and after a year, I am still bleeding frequently (20 out of last 30 days). I have a decreased sex drive and had weight gain- I gained 16 pounds in a year, but I've been really good lately and lost 9 of that so far.
I use nuvaring, a little ring that stays in 3 weeks and you take it out for one week ( so you can have your period)
I've had my Mirena IUD in for three months, and so far I like it (for the most part). The first two months were rough, I was bleeding almost all the time and felt generally nauseus and crampy for much of the time, but now, I LOVE IT. No effort birth control is awesome, I like spontaneity. :)
I have an IUD because the pill disagrees with me. For the first year my periods were noticeably heavier and longer plus more painful. They're not so heavy or as long now and the pains have subsided somewhat. Overall it works best for me.
@gabrielleelise1981: I read somewhere that the Mirena causes weight gain- have you found that to be true?
I use the nuvaring as well and it's fantastic. I've considered switching to the mirena IUD, but am too happy with the current method to bother. In a few years I am going to start thinking about permanent options, but it's too early for that now.
WOW...those IUDs seem to give you problems at the beginning, but are smooth sailing afterwards.
My cramps have always been horrendous....throwing up, light headedness, hot flashes...the works. Being on the pill has caused my periods to be annoyingly painful almost every day of it, but not as many horrid cramp days. I don't really know which is better. :(
@PrncssDva: You can always go on a continual pill like Lybrel or Nuvaring and just go from one ring to another. I wasn't getting a period for about a year and I think I might go back to that with the Nuvaring.
@happyb: I have not had any weight gain since getting the Mirena. I’ve had it for over 2 years now, and have recently gained a couple of pounds, but I also have pretty much stopped going to the gym since the wedding, so can’t say that Mirena caused the weight gain. I've been within 5 pounds of my same weight for the past like 8 years.
The downsides I have experienced: hurt like a &%$$%#$##$ to have inserted (but that only took about 1 minute). For the first 3-4 months I had really rough cramps a lot. I also had spotting on and off at random intervals, which was annoying. Since about 4 months after insertion though, I have had no period, no cramps.
My doctor said most women have significantly reduced periods with Mirena and many stop their period completely after some amount of time.
@Entangled: I have to agree with gabriel about the insertion. It was the second worst pain I have ever had in my life but thankfully short. I had significant cramps for the first six months, that is fine now. My periods are much lighter, they just last forever (today=day 10), and I get them about every 22-24 days, plus throw in a few days of spotting. I have also had nausea, mainly in morning (no, I am 100% sure I am not pregnant). I talked to my gyn, and since I cannot do estrogen (I look at a birth control pill and I have a migraine), the only other options are switching to paragard, although that probably won't help, barrier methods, or NFP, and I REALLY don't want to get knocked up now.
@Birdie Love: Fertility Awareness Method (FAM) or Natural Family Planning (NFP). I'm really surprised no one commented on it.
It's effective if used correctly. There are many methods: Marquette, Creighton, Sympto-Thermal, and Billings. They use a combination of the following: temperature charting, cervical fluid, cervical position and texture, Ovulaion Predictor Kits (OPKs). Check out the book, Taking Charge of Your Fertility written by Toni Weschler. Many Catholic dioceses also offer courses, usually through Couple to Couple League. Both Taking Charge of Your Fertility and Couple to Couple League teach Sympto-thermal method. There are several threads on this on the Catholic boards.
These methods use the natural fertility signs during different phases (three phases) to either avoid or conceive. Taking Charge of Your Fertility says to use a combination of FAM and condoms whereas the Couple to Couple League say to abstain during fertile times if attempting to avoid pregnancy.
@beekiss: Oooooohhhhhh!!!! I was wondering if "natural" really meant FAM.
My husband and I aren't TTC yet (but we be soon--probably by the end of the year) but aren't trying to hard not to either...pull out for us. If it happens now, it's a tiny bit earlier than we were planning, but we're okay with that idea. Before we got married, I had the Nuvaring, and LOVED it. I was really bad about taking a pill every day (I even had an alarm set on my phone) so I loved that I only had to think about it once a month.
I just use the pill. I have been on it for a few years now and my periods have stopped altogether. I am really surprised at the fail rates with the BC pill! But then again I knew a 45yr old lady who had her tubes tied and she accidentally became pregnant because her tubes fused back together. The doctors will usually like to burn the tips of them to avoid this but it is a very small chance it can happen in the first place!
Just BC, sometimes with pull out. No condoms. I'm pretty good about taking my pill on time everyday, but should probably do more. I'm considering an IUD. It may hurt, but it certainly can't hurt more than having a baby, right?
Also, I have a Prolactinoma. It causes me to have abnormally high levels of the hormone Prolactin, and that causes infertility. I used to be on medication that kept my levels normal. However, I have not been on it for a year now. Maybe that helps? I certainly do NOT count on that though. It's the BC I'm relying on.
We have talked about it, and if I do get pregnant, we will be okay. Ideally, though, I would like to wait to get pregnant for a few years after getting married.
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