Post # 1
All, I have a legal question — I am planning my wedding and therefore doing all of the legwork and coordination with vendors, however my parents are paying for the wedding. Whose name should be on the contract – mine or theirs? In addition, for things like hotel points, who should receive the points – me or them? They haven’t brought this up to me or anything, but I’d just like to know, legally and etiquette-wise, how it is normally done!
Post # 3
I’m in the same situation, and our name is on a lot of the contracts, but most of them also have my mother’s name on them. Perhaps you want to let the venue (or whatever) know who is paying, so they can have the proper person on the contract.
I’m not sure about hotel points- sorry!
Post # 4
I think the hotel points are up to your parents. If they are paying for the wedding and want to give you the points there’s no rule out there that says they shouldn’t. We get points at our venue as well and I’m hoping my parents give them to us too 🙂
As for the contracts everything but the venue is in our name simply b/c I did all the legwork, but like you, my parents are paying for the majority of the wedding.
Post # 5
Most points programs require the name on the points account to match the name on the credit card. I know that even me and my husband aren’t allowed to use each other’s points accounts, so I’m pretty sure that if your parents put it on their card, they will have to get the points.
Post # 6
My name is the one on our contracts, even tho my parents are paying. But our vendors are almost all people we know through church, or because they’re neighbors, so it’s not like there’s likely to be any legal trouble. Our wedding is so low-key I’m not really worried about that sort of thing. So I’d just check with the vendors as you go, find out how they want that handled. The only real reason I see it becoming a big issue is if your parents randomly don’t pay. If your name’s the one on the contract, you’re the one they’ll be going after. But if you don’t foresee any of those sorts of problems, I doubt it’ll matter a great deal.
Post # 7
There are two options:
1) your name is on the contract, you sign the contract, you’re legally responsible for upholding the contract terms. Other people can pay on your behalf, but they’re not obligated to.
2) your parent’s name (or both names) is on the contract, they’re legally responsible for upholding the contract terms.
Either way is fine, it just depends on who wants to be the responsible party. The one thing you should not do is have your name printed on the contract but a parent sign it, or vice versa, which could lead to legal problems if something goes wrong.
I’m not a lawyer, though. And if you think you might have any problems with this, you should probably contact one!
Post # 8
I don’t anticipate any legal problems with my parents or anyone not following through on their obligation to pay, we’re fine there! Thank you for your answers so far!