- 5 years ago
- Wedding: December 2015
I wonder sometimes if a wedding is a bit selfish on my part, ever since I got my beautiful ring and started to talk about the wedding with a few of my close friends they start to tear me down. All of my friends are indeed married (right out of high school) and have one or two kids by now and see me working on this grand event and tell me not to waste my money or have they insist if I have the wedding are trying to control when or they won’t come.
My FH and I decided on a winter wedding in the Apostal Islands, we wanted it to be intimate, cozy and warm, not to mention it’s beautiful up there but I’ve been second guessing our decion when my friends kept telling me it was too cold and too far, but when my FH and I made the plan we had budgeted everyone getting a cabin that we would provide for a weekend not to mention a full car service for them to not worry about the drive. I mean both my FH and I have the means and money to do so since we really just wanted a mini vaca for all of our friends and family.
Another thing that has bugged me a little is the fact that when I talk about the ceremony my friends get really upset that I’m not getting married in front of a judge or priest and instead we are doing a Rope type ceremony. (We are going in front of a judge the day before the ceremony) The reason being that we both want to control the ceremony and not have someone lead us. My friends also dislike that I want a chinsese style wedding which is strange that they would disagree with that since I am half chinese and so is my FH so it was kind of expected we would want one.
I’ve resigned myself to not getting the wedding I’ve been dreaming of to accomidate my friends (my family and his are willing to do whatever we like,) but I’ve done this for a lot of other things so they could come like my engagement party which I completly redid to acomidate their children.
I have to wonder am I being selfish to want a winter wedding or are my friends too controling?