- 7 years ago
- Wedding: June 2011
My fiance and I have known each other, and dated off and on, since we were 16 we are now 23. We have been engaged now for over a year and are getting married in 4 months. A few months ago his parents told him that they wanted a pre-nup to protect his inheritence and to protect him from my student loans. This soon followed by a very heated “conversation” between his mother and I, where she told me the only way to prove my love for him was to sign the prenup. I proceeded to tell her that my fiance is the only one I need to “prove my love to” and then walked out. Since then we have hardly spoken, but they continue to push the prenup on us. They are not contributing a dime to the wedding but they do have a lean on his car and threaten to take that (among other things) if I don’t sign it. I have a problem with the prenup for several reasons: first of all I told him before we got engaged that I would never sign a prenup. A marriage is about love not a business contract, at least in our case. In the state I live in it is a community property state, meaning that in the event of a divore his inheritence remains his, my inheritence remains mine, and any debt acquired prior to the marriage (student loans) remains seperate. So basically in our case it is pointless. On top of this they want us to fork out $600 for an attorney to draw one up! I think this is way out of line! So since the stress of it all has been getting to both of us we decided to get a $25 prenup online, fill it out, and the day after the wedding we are dissolving the prenup. I just want to know that I am doing the right thing, and how I should handle his parents if they push on wanting a copy of the prenup or wanting to force more on us. On top of this they are throwing a fit because his little brother, the best man, has to pay for his own tux rental! They have had a year and a half notice on this wedding!! Help!