- 4 years ago
- Wedding: May 2014
The saga continues! I need more advice and I know quite a few other bees must have had this same problem.
When I last posted, my mother wouldn’t talk about the wedding and everyone just said we should do it all ourselves. My conclusion was that it wouldn’t burn too many bridges to just walk away from them. I am the oldest girl in a family with 6 kids and I have over 40 first cousins! So to plan an affordable wedding without any assistance would mean that none of them could come!
So after 6 months, I thought mom finally came around! I let her pick the venue and the date entirely on her own- I said I wanted this town in May 2014 and she decided she didn’t like the town or the month. Anyway, I let her have it we are getting married where she got married 30 years about in August 2014! Woo hoo! I have a date. So I was home last weekend for something else entirely and just before I left, she said go through the timeline and figure out what we need to do next! So then I was excited- maybe now she is on board.
So earlier this week, I put together a detailed email of what I thought the next steps should be, a few recommendations on how I thought we could tackle them and questions on each and everyone so she could provide lots of input.
Since that email- almost a weekend ago, there has been silence on the radio except for one short and terse email regarding something completely unrelated. She never responded to my email and now seems to be doing her whole- I’m not ready to talk about it thing.
How am I supposed to plan a wedding, if I can’t even mention planning anything without her feeling like I am taking control and her refusing to talk about it until she has complete control again?
How do you let her plan every part of it and give her complete control but also balance that with a seemingly genuine interest? I don’t know what line I am supposed to be walking right now and I seem to be falling on both of the wrong sides of it.