- 4 years ago
- Wedding: October 2013
This is my first (and really long) post on here. Sadly, I started this post because I have been getting really stressed out by my upcoming wedding. It’s only a few months away, so naturally I have started shopping for decorations for our reception and ceremony.
The issue is my mother in law has an agenda of her own. Ever since we announced our engagement, my FI’s mother (and his aunt!!) has had a mind of her own. I actually have a good relationship with her, but she has turned controlling over our wedding. I talked with her from the very beginning and described what it is I have in mind for our special day. And she seemed to get the picture.
A few weeks later, she is the polar opposite. At this point, I have already discussed my budget with my parents, and they have been honest about what they will or won’t pay. My MIL will not discuss this topic at all, not with me or her son! I tried asking her to make a list of what she has/will buy, but she has yet to do it. This is a huge problem because she has been buying decorations and food utensils for the reception (which she has declared SHE is in charge of) without informing my FI or me.
This leaves me stranded and confused as to what my FI and I should be buying. I’m not a bridezilla, but I feel as though I should have more involvement in my own wedding!! The things she buys aren’t even what I had envisioned for our simple event. Sometimes I feel like she wants to recreate her own!
Not only has she been planning the reception to her taste style, she has also taken it upon herself to plan the bridal shower, which I told her I didn’t want. We live in a 1 bedroom apartment, and won’t have a house for many years, so to me there is no point in collecting dust on new applances we can’t store or use! She does not understand this.
Her latest idea has been to cut our ceremony list down that way she can invite more people for the reception. She actually said she wanted to double the list that way she can invite more of her extended family members that my FI does not know! I have a small family to begin with, but I believe this absurd.
To top it all off, my FI will not confront her about ANY of these issues.
I don’t know whether it’s because I’m a female clashing with another female, but I think she’s getting way out of control. Please give me some advice as to how I should resolve this problem with her…. I don’t want to forget why I’m getting married in the first place