Post # 1
We plan to send out invites for over 180 guests. The STDs are already out and we have 43 gifts on the registry. Evidently I’ll be adding a few lot more.
Since there are only a few more things that we really need, the rest of the additions will be fluff stuff. You know, vases, decorative stuff, whatever is low on the priority list. BUT many of these things will be cute and inexpensive (bud vases?). Compared to the boring, expensive basics (a MAC chef’s knife), folks might get things off the fluff list before the items we really need. I realize some of the older/experienced guests might understand the needs vs the fluffs, but I’m still a little worried.
Is it a plausible idea to add things to the registry in batches, in order of priority? Say, I put 30 items up at a time and add the fluff stuff after the important stuff has been purchased? Not all the necessities are pricey and boring (food thermometer, cutting boards, sigg bottles, colorful mixing bowls), so there will be plenty of $10-$50 and $50-$75 items on at all times. There are only about 8 items over $100, anyway.
Is this totally selfish, manipulative, and evil of me?
It would be really sad to have candle sticks and charger plates but no knives or plates.
Post # 3
Actually it’s just really smart. You’ll realize that most people don’t use the registry or only use it as a guide anyway. By keeping it small, you can keep an eye on it. When it seems to be dwindling down, add a few more items. But I’d say you have a smart strategy right now!
Post # 5
I say don’t worry about it. I’m sure some people will give you gift cards or cash, so if you only get the fluff stuff, you should have money to purchase yourself a knife or two. Or, worst comes to worst, see what the return/exchange policy is at the store you registered at.
Post # 6
I think you can do it in stages, but I don’t think it’s something you need to worry about. I think most folks will look for something practical, but I also think you will be surprised by how generous people are–especially if you have 180 on your list and only 43 things left on the registry. I was surprised at how quickly stuff went from ours.
Post # 7
this shouldn’t be a concern, because almost all registries allow you to return the stuff you didn’t really want and put it toward the stuff you need. i got multiples of a few things and can’t wait to return for some of the stuff i’ve been coveting!
Post # 8
Thanks for all your input! I’m glad to know it’s ok with the hive to play these registry games!
Post # 9
I know that some registries have the option to show what priority the gift is to you, like a “love to have it” “nice to have it” type set up. I think Amazon does it that way. Not sure where you are registered, but maybe it is this option included.
Post # 10
I would say only put stuff on your registry you and FI want. Don’t put stuff on their just for the sake of putting items on there! I agree that some people might just buy you gift cards regardless!
If anything, I think most stores are really great about returns/exchanges on registry items.
Post # 11
I wouldn’t do it some people like to get the decorative stuff ior stuff that will be around for years to come. It’s usually easy to change your mind and return registry gifts. You dont want people going off registry and not knowing your style.
Post # 12
eh. Just return what you don’t want.
We registered for flippers, spatulas, wooden spoons etc. at the department store where they are $14.99 a peice. I put them on there so people got the idea that we want kitchen stuff – I’m hoping they know enough to go to Walmart or the Dollar store to actually buy them where they are a 1/5 of the price. If not, I fully intend to return them and use the store credit to buy stuff I’m really coveting, like china, and pots and pans.