(Closed) Convalidation Questions

posted 6 years ago in Catholic
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

it really depends on the church. get in touch with your fiance’s parish to find out exactly how they do things, but i’ll answer your questions as best as i can.

first of all, your right on about what a convalidation is 🙂

-As far as preparation, you may need to attend some classes. since you would already be married they may have a different set of classes/requirements than the ones for couples who aren’t yet married. there is also a foccus test, which is like a compatibility test they may have you both take. and some parishes require/suggest that the couple learn about natural family planning.

-it doesn’t matter that you’re not catholic. as long as your fiance is qualified to be married in the church, it shouldn’t be a problem. and by qualified i mean he’s fulfilled the necessary sacraments and he hasn’t been previously married thru the church (and then divorced).

-it should be no problem having it in his home parish. it’s when you want to go outside of your home parish that it can get a little complicated. you would need to get a letter granting you permission to be married thru another church.

my church (which i’ve been attending for 3-4 years) was going to make me get permission from the church i grew up attending, but there were some technicalities (which i won’t bore you with) that got us off the hook with that. 

-i think it would most likely be held on a saturday, but some churches may give you the option of having it on a sunday or even a weekday.

-they do ask for witnesses, so yes, your family can be there. my parish does their convalidations in their chapel, which seats 25 people. however, most convalidations i’ve been to have been held in churches and they invite their whole families just like it was a “real” wedding.

i hope this helps and i hope i didn’t confuse you! it might seem like a lot, but it’s not as daunting as it may sound and like i said, check with the parish. some are very relaxed and some have a lot of rules and regulations. my church is very strict, so between the church requirements and the military requirements (my fiance is a marine) we’ve been jumping thru hoops left and right, lol.

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