Post # 1
Lately I have been finding that when I talk to my friends they really have nothing to say…… It is a struggle to keep a conversation going unless I do all the talking….. I really feel weird talking about myself all the time…….
Anyone else having the same problem?
Post # 3
@californiabride2013: I did actually go through a stage like this. In fact occasionally I still do. And thats with friends I’ve had for 20+ years. Meh I just shrug it off. Sometimes its painfully awkward but I just try and ask more questions about whats going on in their lives….
Post # 5
@californiabride2013: I am the friend who really has nothing to say, so yeah, I know how you feel but from the other end (I get really pissed at my MIL becuase she always probes for more info when I really don’t know what else to say to her that I haven’t already said). I guess you could talk about similar interests you have. Sometimes your friends just aren’t busy or maybe have nothing left to say on the matter.
Post # 6
Lulls happen. You could always talk about the news, current world events…there’s always so much going on… and you can talk about both of your philosophies and plans related to those local and global issues… Or you could talk about a cool recent scientific discovery you read about… you know, something general enough anyone would be interested in… Or you could go do something together and talk about that (anything from trying out a sport or a class or just watching a movie).
Post # 7
It happens. :/ Try to make the effort but if your friend isn’t going to meet you halfway there’s no point in trying anymore is there?
Post # 8
@californiabride2013: It happens. I try to get the other person talking about something that they are really passionate about, and the conversation picks up from there. But sometimes with old friends, an affiable silence is pleasant.
Post # 9
I actually had a really close friend from high school move away for university – we kept in contact over facebook. After several months she started to appear to just not have anything to say, I had to lead the conversations by asking questions and bringing up new topics… it really got to the point where I was so frustrated I stopped initiating conversations. That was in November and she still hasn’t bothered to begin a conversation with me… which goes to show she didn’t want to talk to me.
This test worked because if talking to me was any kind of priority for her (or even a passing thought) she could’ve taken a second to type in “hi” but instead she’s been silent for 3 months now.