Conversations with friends

posted 3 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
694 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@californiabride2013:  I did actually go through a stage like this. In fact occasionally I still do. And thats with friends I’ve had for 20+ years. Meh I just shrug it off. Sometimes its painfully awkward but I just try and ask more questions about whats going on in their lives….

Post # 5
7654 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

@californiabride2013:  I am the friend who really has nothing to say, so yeah, I know how you feel but from the other end (I get really pissed at my MIL becuase she always probes for more info when I really don’t know what else to say to her that I haven’t already said). I guess you could talk about similar interests you have. Sometimes your friends just aren’t busy or maybe have nothing left to say on the matter.

Post # 6
6407 posts
Bee Keeper

Lulls happen. You could always talk about the news, current world events…there’s always so much going on… and you can talk about both of your philosophies and plans related to those local and global issues… Or you could talk about a cool recent scientific discovery you read about… you know, something general enough anyone would be interested in… Or you could go do something together and talk about that (anything from trying out a sport or a class or just watching a movie).

Post # 7
1952 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

It happens. :/ Try to make the effort but if your friend isn’t going to meet you halfway there’s no point in trying anymore is there?

Post # 8
804 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@californiabride2013:  It happens.  I try to get the other person talking about something that they are really passionate about, and the conversation picks up from there.  But sometimes with old friends, an affiable silence is pleasant.

Post # 9
525 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

I actually had a really close friend from high school move away for university – we kept in contact over facebook. After several months she started to appear to just not have anything to say, I had to lead the conversations by asking questions and bringing up new topics… it really got to the point where I was so frustrated I stopped initiating conversations. That was in November and she still hasn’t bothered to begin a conversation with me… which goes to show she didn’t want to talk to me.

This test worked because if talking to me was any kind of priority for her (or even a passing thought) she could’ve taken a second to type in “hi” but instead she’s been silent for 3 months now.


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