Post # 1
The job itself I have no problem with. It’s my 3 lazy co-workers, one of which is just flat out mean. She’s mean to everyone and has a terrible reputation. Myself and one other lady are the tattle tails of the group. I know that sounds bad but it’s safer to tell the boss and let her deal with it rather than start a confrontation and try to take matters into your own hands. CYA, as they say.
Anyway my boss has been ignoring the behavior and it’s driving me nuts. The work isn’t being done efficiently. She’s intimidated by the lazy mean lady (as was our former boss). They’ve tried to fire her several times but have been unsuccessful because she always claims discrimination (btw it’s definitely not discrimination).
I’ve had it up to my eyeballs and really want to quit but I need the money until I get another job. What should I do?
Post # 3
@Aquaria: You should console yourself by applying to new jobs everyday. Track your progress in an Excel sheet so you can see a tangible reminder that you are on your way out. Remember that dealing with a bitch is better than not being able to pay your bills. Remind yourself that the economy sucks and there is no guarantee you will get a new job right away. Ask yourself how long you can comfortably live off your savings and if there will be anything left.
And most of all, remind yourself how sweet it will be to resign for a much better job where the lazy bitch won’t be 😀
Post # 4
Wait until you have a job lined up. DBF didn’t and ended up working for $8 an hour just to have something
Post # 5
@Aquaria: This sucks. I hate one of my coworkers too. I was actually sitting her being upset about it just before I saw your post and realized I should follow the advice I am about to give you. Seriously, this is the little pep talk I just gave myself: Your coworker is pointless, her existence shouldn’t matter to you at all. Keep doing your work like she doesn’t exist. When she is rude or inappropriate – ignore! Interact with her as little as possible and definitely try not to think about it when you are at home.
Well, obviously I haven’t been successful with this. In my situation, I asked for a transfer to a different department. I don’t suppose this is a possibility for you? If not, I second the other posters in looking for a different job. I so hate to see people have to give up a position because of other people’s stupidity but sometimes there’s no other option. Good luck!!
Post # 6
@mseagles: oh believe me I try to ignore her. Problem is this: she texts me with insults! On my personal phone! I don’t know how she got my number, I certainly didn’t give it to her. I guess that could almost be considered harassment. That was the most recent thing I told my boss about, that I didn’t want her texting me anymore. I have been on the hunt for a new job for a while now.
Post # 7
Is there any way to document these instances and file a complaint with the HR department? Or go talk to them about your concerns? Since you love the job, it would be a shame to leave it.
If not, definitely wait for another job before you resign. Waiting will also give you the freedom to be selective when you choose your new job–and make sure you not only love the job but also the people.
I’ve been in a similiar position before and took the other route–I resigned. It was really, really hard. I ended up working a low-paying job to tie me over (plus I ended up in grad school). While I’ve now landed at a job I truly love (one that I wouldn’t have ended up at had I not left the former job), it was a very difficult road.
Post # 8
@Aquaria: If she is texting you and you did not give her your number, you need to go to HR. That is harrassment and something they can use to remove her from the work environment.
Post # 9
@Aquaria: what the hell, that is crazy! what kind of stuff does she say? Seems like a dumb move on her part to put it in writing like that.
Post # 10
@mseagles: a lot of racial stuff. I’m the only white person in our department, everyone else is AA. She also makes fun of my hair, makeup, being thin, the fact that I don’t have children (as if there’s something strange about being childless when you’ve only been married 5 months). She says looking at me makes her feel sick. Just really immature stuff to be coming from a woman in her 40s.