Post # 1
We are getting married at a historical site (indoors) with M-F to set up for the Saturday evening wedding & reception (all in one location). Other than tables & chairs, all will be brought in (food, alcohol, decor). I am a heavy DIY bride. We will probably have two caterers, one for the buffet, one for cocktail hour. We will need 2 bartenders, and some staff to bus tables, move chairs, etc.
DOC–yes? or ???
Post # 3
Yes. My site was all-inclusive as far as linens, china, servers, etc and my DOC was still the best money I spent. She arrived at 10am and left at 4pm. She kept us on schedule for pictures, retouches before the ceremony, the ceremony, reception entrance, events at the reception (cake, toasts, etc) and our exit. She also dealt with any vendor issues and I never had to think about anything. It made our day so easy and carefree, just as it should be!
Post # 4
@OldMrsMcDonald: Thank you. Budget-wise, we can afford it. But I would probably compensate by using cheaper brands for our signature drinks.
Post # 5
@wabanzi: I have a coordinator and have yet to get married but I know she will be worth every penny. I am a high anxietty bride and will just enjoy the fact of knowing that I won’t have to worry about anything the day of besides getting ready and getting to the venue.
Post # 6
Is there a person who
– you are close to and trust, with money and competence?
– but who is not too close, so won’t be in the bridal party or in family pictures?
– who will greet all the vendors as they come in and look for a place to set up, arrange flowers, set upt the cake, etc? Remember this will happen when you are getting dressed/fancied up/having the first look pictures.
– who will keep a close eye on the clock throughout the whole day (without being disctracted by celebrations), and make sure you’re on schedule?
Those were basically the reasons we decided that we need one. Also that I didn’t want to burden anybody with these tasks when they are guests and wanting to enjoy themselves (rightfully so!)
Post # 7
@PumpkinCheesecake: you make great points!
Post # 8
@wabanzi: Our DOC was a friend of a friend who works at a local University and plans large events for students, which is the same thing I used to do. I trusted her because she knows how to make an event for 5,000 people run smoothly and has a firm hand when it comes to dealing with vendors. If you can think of anyone in your circles with great planning and problem solving skills, go for it.
Post # 9
@OldMrsMcDonald: Most of my friends have those skills, but they will be guests!
I can hire a professional, or hire some staff & make one in charge. I think I must have trust issues hiring a DOC. I’m worried they won’t do much at all, or worse, screw everything up. Service personell in my city is lacking in basic skills & professionalism (in my experience).
I did the DOC duty for my nieces and some other friends, butyes, I need someone to handle the day. Thanks for the advice. Looks like I need to set up some interviews.
Post # 10
- Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast
@wabanzi: FWIW I “imported” my DOC from another state. I was not willing to pay DC area coordinators. They start at $1200. LOL So I put an add on WB classifieds and ended up with an amazing DOC who was willing to do month-of services AND travel for hundreds less than a local DOC. You don’t HAVE to rely only on those located in your area.
Post # 11
I’m going to do the opposite of your title. We had the money to hire one and chose not too. However, I am extremely organized. If you are not then just ignore my post and listen to everyone else 🙂
I had a schedule for everyone. The bridal party, my parents, the caterer, the photographer, the DJ, and the videographer.
With these timelines everything went exactly as planned. FI and the guys decorated the venue. I got ready with the ladies. We all got to the park for our first look on time and actually had extra time for extra pictures. I gave the limo driver our schedule so she knew exactly where to go and when. The DJ knew exactly when to do the grand march, cake cutting, etc. The venue knew when to serve. I arranged it all and the day went very smoothly.
The only time I was slightly stressed was when one of my BMs was taking forever to do make up. I never felt like I was pushing the schedule, it all just flowed because everyone knew their timelines.
ETA: all of our vendors managed to set up on their own. I sent them each a room diagram and they were able to set up without anyone greeting them. I think any experienced vendor should be able to handle this.
I had my MOH hand out the tips (took five minutes).
And yes, we did have to clean up after but family and friends offered to help so it took twenty minutes.
Post # 12
@lovekiss: Excellent point!
I’ll need to do some research on what to ask, etc.
Thank again Bees!
Post # 13
I feel like if it’s between you getting a DOC or getting more expensive alcohol, you should definitely do the DOC!
My venue steps up as a sort of DOC for me (it’s probably less involved than hiring somebody privately) but I can already tell that their help is going to be very useful on the day of and I really appreciate that. I will have evrything mostly taken care of, but it’s nice to have somebody helping you keep a nice concise timeline, and speaking on your behalf if somebody gets out of line and needs to be removed (goodness forbid).
If you have to do midgrade alcohol (lol) like smirnoff, that should be totally fine.
Post # 14
Get the DOC. It is worth it for the peace of mind you will have on your wedding day. No one will call you about anything. You won’t have to look at the clock all day. That alone is priceless. You do not want to be coordinating vendors on your wedding day. As far as I’m concerned, my wedding day went perfectly. Is it possible that there were issues? Yes. But I have no clue because I had a DOC who handled them before I ever knew. I too was extremely well organized and well planned. Giving all that stuff away 2 weeks before the wedding was fantastic. I was able to relax and focus on ME in that time. It is worth it. You will not regret it.
Post # 15
I hired my DOC last week and already feel relieved, and my wedding isn’t for another 4.5 months! I knew I needed someone, and figured I’d rather pay more and feel confidant than pay a little less to a friend and still worry that it wasn’t being done properly. I say if you have the money in your budget, go for it. To me the extra cost is totally worth the peace of mind.