Convincing Him to Un-Plug

posted 3 years ago in Honeymoons
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Hm I’d love that too.. But how about instead of a full ban, maybe suggest that there’s half an hr in the morning and half an hr in the evening where you can both use electronic devices. Enough time to get your (his) fix but not really enough time to impact upon anything else you want to do.

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Or you could bribe him with sexual favours.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

There’s a middle ground.  We didn’t take our laptop or iPad on our honeymoon, but I did check in at work every day via email by going to the VIP lounge to use their terminals.  It was great because I was still connected enough to work that nothing was going to slip between the cracks, but I wasn’t constantly plugged in either.  It took 15-20 minutes after breakfast each morning while DH headed for the beach.  No biggie.

Now, we took our iPad on vacation in May and there was free WiFi everywhere, even on the beach.  I actually ended up working for part of an afternoon.  I wish I had left the iPad at home because if I had been forced to use the resort’s computers, I probably would have just left that work for my return.  It was a little too easy to stay plugged in.

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

 @yaena: Is your honeymoon booked yet? We went somewhere with no internet and very limited cell service on purpose! It was great. 

I agree that such a screen-addicted person might have a rough time going cold turkey and the anticipation of it might make him anxious about the honeymoon. Talk to him now about how serious you are about having an un-plugged trip and help him come up with a plan for scaling back in preparation. And yes, establish the rule that less screentime = more sexy time!

 

Post # 8
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2013

@yaena:  Let him bring one piece of technology in addition to his cell phone, but make sure he sets aside some time to use it.. and sticks to that time.

For example, my SO is an executive, so it’s unrealistic to expect that he will disconnect completely for an entire trip. He only checks his iPad/Blackberry twice a day, though. Also, I love to sleep in and he’s an early bird, so he’ll go on his iPad (on the hotel balcony or other side of the room or whatever) while I’m asleep. If I don’t know about it, I don’t care lol.

Maybe while you’re getting ready to go for dinner or in the morning might be a good time for him to go on his iPad or whatever.

Don’t forget that it is his honeymoon too, so he should be able to enjoy himself.. even if that means he does some stuff you don’t like. I do agree with you though that he does sound excessily plugged in and needs a break from it!! Like what’s the point of going on vacation if you’re doing the same stuff you can do anywhere else?

Post # 10
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Sugar bee

@yaena:  have you already planned it? I would say your best bet is to go somewhere with limited access. We went to Belize a few months ago and I think spent a grand total of 20 min online during the whole week. 

also, keep busy! We had adventures planned for a lot of the time. 

Post # 11
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

My other half and I are the same exact way. And it drives me nuts. He’s constantly on his phone. Whenever we go on vacaction (we are cruisers) we don’t get cell phone service- OH NO! 🙂 and we don’t take computers. Our last two vacations he’s used the computers on the boat for at most 20 minutes the whole vacation. It was so nice to be connected to him and him not connected to electronics. For our honeymoon we’ll be cruising too and I am SIKED about no cell phone services and limited computer time!

I would say, express to him how you really feel and maybe he’ll understand. I mean, I understand compromising but it doesn’t hurt to ask it out of him.

Good luck!

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

@yaena:  It is me that has to be “un-plugged”! LOL! My FI has already forbid me to take my computer with us. Fortunately, on a cruise ship, even though you can use these things, it costs a fortune. So that will be a deterrent.

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