Post # 1
Hi bees! I was wondering if any of you needed to really ‘work at” trying to convince your Darling Husband that your wedding set was too delicate or impractical for your job and that you’d feel more comfortable having a plain band to wear while on the job. My e-ring and band are custom fitted to eachother, and while the wedding band is plain, it looks “odd” by itself b/c it’ not just a circle.
Well the other day I accidently bashed my hand off an exam table while trying to position a patient and knocked my diamond loose. That was the last straw. I don’t want to wear nothing on my finger but I definetly won’t be wearing my wedding set to the hospital ever again. I brought this up to Darling Husband that I’d like a plain, inexpensive place holder band to wear on the job and he basically got angry and told me he’s not buying another ring. I think he’s assuming this “placeholder” has to be a very expensive ring when it def dosen’t have to be, nor SHOULD it be! He just doesn’t get it. Any bees have trouble with obtaining a stand in work ring?
Post # 3
I totally get where you are coming from! I was going to get this super perfect, fitted to my E ring wedding band but realized, I too wouldn’t want to wear my diamond at work all the time, and a molded ring would look off. There are lots of places that sell cheap (well that is a relative term) but like $100 10k bands, or something like that. I would explain to him that you LOVE the rings he got you, but you would never want to damage them by the sometime rough handling at work, it isn’t a replacement, it is so you don’t end up having to replace them because you knocked the stones out in some hospital room to never be found again.
Post # 4
You could just get a sterling silver band. That will run you $20 – $30 bucks.
Post # 5
Thanks for your replies, ladies! I’ll bring up the SS option- surely 30 bucks won’t break the bank. I guess I was just baffled that he didn’t understand the reasoning behind a stand in ring. The ring is insured of course, but he actually said “once you lose that diamond, that’s it!” Ha, what a silly attitude. I guess I’m just venting. All the more reason to get a stand in…. yeesh.
Post # 6
well i guess i don’t see why this is something that even needs to be brought up? if you’re banging it around at work, then you need a stand in so you don’t damage the real deal. i’d just go pick up a cheapy placeholder one, not try to convince him on it. i mean, it’s not like you need to go ring shopping together or anything, so i guess i don’t know why you have to try and sell him on the idea in the first place when you can just pick up a $20 one at a department store. really, it’s like any other piece of jewelry since it’s not really “the ring”. treating it like it is is probably why your Darling Husband has his panties in a twist thinking this is going to cost him big.
Post # 7
I had the same problem. Being a nurse I am always washing my hands, putting gloves on and taking them off. My gloves never fit properly over my ring. I tried to explain this to my honey but he wasnt buying it. At one point my ring got stuck in some gloves and ended up in the garbage. After a few hours of frantically searching for it I found it. I told him the story and now we are getting a plain band for work. Maybe something like this would convice him?
Post # 8
They also sell tungsten bands for women, thay are fairly inexpensive. We just got FI’s wedding band and it was $50 including shipping from Amazon.
Post # 9
Yes, I also agree that I’m not sure why you even need to consult him. I would think nothing of ordering myself a simple $20 band and I’d be shocked if my Fiance had a problem with it.
Post # 10
i work as a maid, and i told Fiance that i wanted a regular band just for work and he didnt get it… i already had some deep scratches in it and have already had to get it re-dipped. I dont want to have to keep going 10 days with out my ring becuase it keeps getting scratched. also it sets pretty high off my finger and im afraid that itll get caught on something.
Post # 11
I work in a hospital, too, and am paranoid about anything happening to my e-ring even though it’s insured. I told Fiance that I didn’t feel comfortable wearing it at work and that I was gonna get a cheap replacement ring to wear at work. He didn’t have much of an issue with it, though he doesn’t quite “get it” lol. I’d rather smash my fake $20 ring at work than much more expensive real ring. Maybe offer to pay for the stand in ring yourself? That way he won’t have to shell out more cash since he already got you the good stuff!
Post # 12
I really don’t understand what your husband’s attitude is all about either. I think I would just buy what I wanted and be done with it.
Post # 13
I let my Fiance know the other day that I want a “stunt ring” for times that my diamond wedding set isn’t appropriate. It actually hurt his feelings, he was horrified at the thought of me taking off my wedding ring.
Just pick up an inexpensive SS, titanium or tungeston band. I’m sure he’ll see the benifit.
Post # 14
I think getting a simple band would be a good idea. I plan on having a low profile, skinny band to wear at work. I work at a public school and don’t feel that wearing a blingy eternity ring every day is a good idea. Sterling silver is a great, inexpensive alternative.
Post # 15
I got plain silver band for $14 on overstock.com when I got pregnant and my weddingset didn’t fit anymore. Also try etsy. I’d just get one yourself.
Post # 16
I dont think the consultation with the husband is necessarily because a stand in ring would be cheap, but because of the fact you would no longer be wearing *the* rings that he gave you and expected you to wear all the time. It just courtesy. I know my husband is quite against stand in rings because I brought up buying then for vacations. He stance was that we pay insurnace on it in case anythign does happen so that I CAN wear it all the time. For this reason, if I just went out to get a stand in for whatever reason, I’m pretty sure he wouldnt too happy with it. But… for OP’s case when the ring is already seriously being damange and you want to avoid that, I dont know why he would need convincing. I’m pretty surprised he doesnt want to protect the ring from knowingly harmful situations. Like others said, if he thinks its going to be expensive, just tell him you can get stand in’s for as little as $20 !