Convincing SO to use heirloom ring?

posted 3 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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493 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

I would tell him point blank just what you said here: that the symbolism and history of a family ring from the family you’ll be joining and a loving marriage like his grandparents’ is more important to you than the size of the stone. And point out gently that *you’ll* be the one wearing if every day, so it should be something that makes you happy.

If you think his pride is the issue, tell him you’ll be happy to let him buy a fancier wedding band (maybe a wrapper band that makes the setting on the heirloom ring more dramatic) or wear any other jewelry he wants to buy you later, but that for now, for sentimental reasons, you would really love to wear that particular ring. Emphasize the connection to his family and how much that would mean to you and avoid pointing out the financial sense (even though it’s also very financially responsible). Maybe even throw in that you like the idea of it becoming a true heirloom that your children might one day pass on, a connection down through generations of your family. If he has a lot of pride, the sentiment of you appreciating his family history and identity may appeal to him.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

@Bubblesmcgee: +1.

I would say something like how the ring symbolizes you becoming part of his family (of course, him becoming part of yours too) and that an heirloom ring carries so much more history and tradition than a new one.

When you get it, shows us pics! 😀

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