Post # 1
I’m currently dealing with a little disagreement among bridesmaids. I’m not even going to share my opinion or my position in the wedding. I simply want to know your unbiased opinion. Please vote in the pole above. Thanks!
This topic was modified 3 years ago by jg780806.
Post # 2
I think free for all is taking it a little too far… like neon green stillettos wouldn’t be cool but within reason like all black or gold seems fair and easy enough
Post # 3
- Wedding: May 2014 - Smithfield Center
I voted same color. The shoes should at least coordinate – but if you wanted matching, they should do matching. It’s your choice.
Post # 4
jg780806: Free for all, IMO; the dresses are long, they won’t be seen, so for me it doesn’t matter. I have 3 bridesmaids wearing long dresses and have said they can wear whatever shoes they want; I genuinely don’t care in the slightest.
Post # 5
I’ve stood in 3 weddings and always wore shoes the same colour but not matching. My girls can wear whatever style they like but I’d like them to be black. You can never go wrong with a good neutral shoe.
Post # 6
jg780806: I voted “all the same color.” Styles and fit can be different per person but if you tell them to go find a royal blue shoe, they can do that.
Post # 7
Wedding party members spend a lot of money to support the bride and groom. Insisting on a pair of shoes in a color they don’t normally wear, is an unnecessary expense when they are wearing a long dress. Although the shoes will show when they walk, they certainly won’t be obvious in pics.
Post # 8
- Wedding: October 2017 - Baton Rouge, LA
i’m in a wedding this friday where i’m wearing a long dress. we were asked to wear silver shoes. some of us got flats, with rhinestones and pearls, some got wedges, some got heels. they’re all very different shoes, but they wont be seen much, and they are all our personal preference so not only will we be comfortable, we can wear them again. if i already owned silver shoes (i wear a lot of bright colored shoes lol) i would have just worn those.
Post # 9
It really depends on the dresses. If they are short and the shoes will be seen asking for a specifc color is fine. If they are long let them wear whatever within reason. Ps:u are allowed to also specify no flats for the ceremony if that’s your preference. Let them wear whatever after pics Esp to dance!
Post # 10
Free for all, I’d rather have my girls be comfortable especially if the dresses are long and no one is really going to see their shoes anyways.
Post # 11
- Wedding: August 2013 - Wynn Las Vegas
I didn’t care what shoes they wore, as long as they were the same color. My mom, on the other hand, was insistent that she wanted them to all have matching shoes, so she got them some reall nice silver heels. They all ended up barefoot by the end of the night anyway, to be more comfortabe, and you can’t see their shoes in our wedding photos. Meh.
Post # 12
I’m telling mine to wear a silver or grey shoe. Any shade is fine.
I believe the correct etiquette is if you require a specific shoe (like THIS EXACT black pump or something), you are required to pay for it. If you just require any black shoe, which would be reasonable to think every BM would have, then you aren’t obligated to pay for it.
Post # 13
When it comes to things I care about in the wedding, bridesmaids’ shoes rank pretty close to the bottom. When they asked me what type of shoes I wanted I told them “ones that go on your feet”. It is an insignificant detail. They know how to dress themselves, I wouldn’t expect them to pick out neon yellow shoes with the dress they are wearing but if they do who cares?
Post # 14
As long as the color they pick is consistent with the rest of the wedding or a neutral tone, I wouldn’t think twice about letting bridesmaids wear their own shoes with long dresses. If I absolutely had to have a picture of the bridesmaids’ cute coordinating shoes, I would be footing the bill for them myself. I was originally going to let my bridesmaids pick their favorite neutral color/style, but they all ended up liking the exact same shoe. Go figure. They are also wearing long dresses, but I was fully prepared to let them pick their own neutral or silver-colored shoe.
Post # 15
- Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast
Free for all. It’s a long dress that will cover their feet. Who cares what the shoes look like…. even if they are neon or Chucks.