Post # 1
About 500 times/day, fear creaps up in me about my pregnancy. I know miscarriages are common, but I still need to reassure myself that I am doing everything I can to make sure this one sticks.
One thing that has really seemed to help me out is everytime I think something bad, I look around at all of the people around me and think “all of these people were a result of a viable pregnancy.”
And if I’m still anxious, I think of all of the people in parts of the world who are less fortuante with less resources who have children, like Africa, rural Asia, and even poverty-striken Americans and think “all of those people were the result of a viable pregnancy” and that usually calms me down quite a bit.
What are your tricks?
Post # 3
“all of these people were a result of a viable pregnancy.”
Wow! I love what you just said. I have never thought of it like that. I am a worrier. I wish I could put on a smile and say “Oh yeah I am calm.” Inside I’m shaking and wanting to cry.
I’m Christian and I have been praying. I thank God everyday that he is letting me carry this baby. It’s helped so much honestly. That’s how I cope with the fears.
Post # 4
@ExcitedScaredBee: We all have these pregnancy fears, if its not about miscarriage, its about giving birth to a stillborn or there is something wrong with the baby.
I would worry everytime she stopped moving. I would wake up in the middle of the night, drink some juice and hold my tummy until I felt her move. This went on until she was born.
She was born alive and healthy. I don’t know how I would handle a MC, so I have no advice to give you on that really, I am sorry. Just keep positive.
Post # 5
Having one miscarriage before this baby has created new fears for me but also settled my mind a bit. Mostly I just try not to think about it. Your thoughts are really good to think about too! It does help to think about all the millions of healthy babies born every day to people on the other side of the world- people without access to the amount to healthcare we have where I live. I feel very fortunate to be able to have so many doctors and hospitals close by- although the farther on you get the easier it is to know everything is ok (for me, anyway) with all the heartbeat hearings and ultrasounds (2 so far) it’s comforting to look back on those appointments and remind myself the doctors and midwives said everything was looking good. Pregnancy really does fly by! I hope for you the fears pale in comparison to this wonderful time and preparations for the new baby 🙂 Focusing on bringing my LO home helps me counteract the fears and thoughts I do have when I worry.
Post # 6
It was hard for me at first, to stop worrying SOO much about miscarrying..and if it wasn’t about miscarrying it was about the NT scan, and then about the Anatomy scan..always something to drive me crazy..anyway what I did to help get passed it was to remind myself that at that moment EVERYTHING IS OK..and that there is NO need to worry about something until (IF, God forbid) it happens..that helped me cope. I would read about things (even on wedding bee), sometimes not even on purpose, about things that could happen, and it would put me into a panic. I found that talking my DH and my mom about my fears helped me alot too.
Post # 7
@ExcitedScaredBee: I could’ve written this post! Everytime I get excited, it quickly turns to worry and every possible thing that could go wrong….even things that could go wrong years after the baby is born! I even reassure myself with the same thinking you do. So, I don’t have any good ‘tricks’ to get over the fears, but one more thing that calms me down sometimes is thinking about the stories on “I Didn’t Know I was Pregnant,’ and seeing the number of people who have gone through a whole entire pregnancy not knowing they were pregnant and had happy, healthy babies! They had no pre-natal care whatsoever and since the mothers didn’t know they were pregnant, I’m sure they drank, smoked and everything else possible- and their babies still made it.
Post # 8
I am a total worry-wart and question every twinge or cramp. I have to remind myself that there is absolutley nothing i can do except take care of myself and hope for the best. I remind myself that stress isnt good for the baby. I love your saying, @figgnewton, and i think i will write it down and keep it in my purse.
Post # 9
@ExcitedScaredBee: I hope that soon you can relax and enjoy your pregnancy! stress and worry accomplish nothing, as it’s clear you know that. We have TOO much information these days. Our Moms didn’t worry half as much, because they know about it to worry!
For me, in the very beginning, I used reversal. So if 1/4 of pregnancies end in miscarriage (often before the woman even knows she’s pregnant, it’s THAT early)… then that means 3/4 of pregnancies DON’T! 🙂
Post # 10
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I love your way of thinking! Iam a worrier too! I just keep reminding myself that this baby needs me to be calm and not stressed out–and that eases some of my anxiety about it.
Post # 11
I’m not currently pregnant, but having had 6 miscarriages, I have a pretty good idea of the level of fear associated. Basically what I do is put it all in God’s hands. I’m doing everything I can on my side to ensure that my body is the most welcoming and healthy place it can be, the rest is up to God.