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Hi Ladies....

It's been a while since I've been here on this board, as I've been enjoying the married life...but needed to come here to vent.

I'm here today....as I been following up on my DH's cousin who's getting married in August of this year (2008).

Can you believe that she and her family...HAS NO ORIGINALITY???

My gosh! (I don't want to hear them even say to me, "We didn't even come to your wedding, so we don't know what you had or didn't have!" Her mom had the gall to say to me that I was jealous???  Ummm..how is that so??? I am NOT the one that's "jealous" here. I CAME UP WITH MY OWN DESIGNS!!! BITING MY IDEAS FOR HER DAUGHTER'S WEDDING IN AUGUST....ummm...can I say she is the one that's jealous? ::for reals!::

"B.S.!!" I say...."because you know gosh darn well, that my Mother-In-Law, is the sister who's the mom of the bride! (My DH's Aunt.) And ya'll know you all talk with each other!"

Ladies...I have to say, that for their bouts...they have completely and totally copied what I had at my wedding back in February, as far as what the groom and groomsmen will wear.

They want to use Orchids...but can I say they don't even deserve to use Orchids? They don't even hold the belief of what Orchids mean!

Omg...and another hilarious thing is that they want to or is considering even using Peonies! (Once again, they hold nothing to the belief that Peonies have!)

I'm dying laughing over here...as I can't believe that as a Bride...she would rather "BITE" off another Bride's idea...rather then going TOTALLY UNIQUE and something that is DIFFERENT! When I say "BITE"...I mean "TOTALLY COPYING TO THE T!!!"

Another thing to laugh at...(as I read in her blog)...is that her mother (Bride's mother) even ventured out to "suggest" putting out pictures of the decest relatives out.....just as how I did with mine!....

I know...I know...all the brides "BITE" off one another. Yes, I get that. But c'mon now. BITING TO THE T????

Jumping the broom...now I can get that, because they are an Afro-American couple...so that I understand. DH and I did that, because that is HIS HERTIAGE...and I wanted to pay respects to that.

Peonies...Orchids...(more commonly used in Asian Weddings)...as I am Asian.

This is too hilarious. Funny to think, that DH and I got a phone call from his mom...and his mom (my mother-in-law) was saying to us that the Bride (her niece)...had become OFFICIALLY BRIDEZILLA, and that she was totally annoyed and fed up!....But then asked me to help her find fans? WTF??? Are you seriously kidding me? The bride is supposidly going to Singapore. Wouldn't it be the wise thing to do to shop there for it is WAAAAY much cheaper and then pack it home or have it shipped back here? I mean...I bought my favors overseas...shipping wasn't but a thing (not much), and the favors broke down to ilke practically 3 cents each!!! (For some REALLY CUTE AND ORIGINAL FAVORS!!...mind you!)

Then you go and read the Bride's blog...and she claims that the show BRIDEZILLA is "over-rated" and that she doesn't act like a Bridezilla. Does she even know that her Aunt thinks of her as one? ::laughs::

Okay okay okay...so I may sound a little spiteful here in my post...but the one serious thing that really annoys me is when FAMILY-IN-LAW MEMBERS....DO NOT HAVE their OWN ORIGINALITY...and bites off my ideas...from my wedding.

DH says to me, "Hun, look at it this way...they all must think you have GREAT TASTE, since they are biting off of you!!"

I guess so, ....but still.

(As it is Friday the 13th today....my luck will be 'probably getting yet another 'nasty email from this bride's mom saying she'll come over and commence an a$$ whooping her nephew (my DH) and me because we are 'silly a$$es'. I say "BRIIIIIINNNNG IT!"

Oh honey!  Obviously you're really upset about this... take a deeeep breath... I have been to a lot of weddings, and at every wedding there were superficial similarities.  But ONLY superficial!  People do not attend weddings just to look at "stuff."  People attend weddings to celebrate with the bride and groom.  Your personalities, your flair, your talents and traditions are what make all the difference.  So yes, it is frustrating when you feel like you've put a ton of effort into something so important only to feel like you're being copied... but YOU can never be replicated!  And no one's experience of your wedding will be anything like the experience they have at your cousin's, even if all of the "stuff" is the same down to the very last petal.

The post made me laugh!

i agree with beesknees.  this is going way beyond being just a copy cat -- maybe there is a deep-seated resentment toward your DH's family for whatever reason, which is totally your perogative.  the ENTIRE WEDDING INDUSTRY is based off copying the ideas of brides that came before you.  it's BOUND to happen.  orchids and peonies are not original ideas for flowers...

if you're not happy with them, just don't offer your help.  don't attend the wedding.  be happy that YOU had a beautiful wedding and am married to the man you love. 

because that's what really matters, right?

i can't lie. this has got to be my favorite board post e v e r. everything from the woman who thinks today is friday, june 13 to snapdragon giving us the meaning of 'orchid' i've been in stitches and have been checking for updates pretty religiously.

by the way, seeing as how i used orchids in my wedding and i got married before the poster, does that mean i can jump on a rant about how she's copying me? grab a bridal magazine, lady, and see how original you feel after a quick flip through one.

After crying most of the day today due to getting married in about 3 weeks and all the stuff I have left to do, this post was AWESOME.  I am having Orchid's in my boquet and now I am going to think, look at my beautiful testicles!!!

Thanks for the laughs posters!!!  I really needed it today!! 

I don't understand why you are so upset... they are using the same ideas you've had months ago... aren't you supposed to be flattered?