It's been a while since I've been here on this board, as I've been enjoying the married life...but needed to come here to vent.
I'm here today....as I been following up on my DH's cousin who's getting married in August of this year (2008).
Can you believe that she and her family...HAS NO ORIGINALITY???
My gosh! (I don't want to hear them even say to me, "We didn't even come to your wedding, so we don't know what you had or didn't have!" Her mom had the gall to say to me that I was jealous??? Ummm..how is that so??? I am NOT the one that's "jealous" here. I CAME UP WITH MY OWN DESIGNS!!! BITING MY IDEAS FOR HER DAUGHTER'S WEDDING IN AUGUST....ummm...can I say she is the one that's jealous? ::for reals!::
"B.S.!!" I say...."because you know gosh darn well, that my Mother-In-Law, is the sister who's the mom of the bride! (My DH's Aunt.) And ya'll know you all talk with each other!"
Ladies...I have to say, that for their bouts...they have completely and totally copied what I had at my wedding back in February, as far as what the groom and groomsmen will wear.
They want to use Orchids...but can I say they don't even deserve to use Orchids? They don't even hold the belief of what Orchids mean!
Omg...and another hilarious thing is that they want to or is considering even using Peonies! (Once again, they hold nothing to the belief that Peonies have!)
I'm dying laughing over here...as I can't believe that as a Bride...she would rather "BITE" off another Bride's idea...rather then going TOTALLY UNIQUE and something that is DIFFERENT! When I say "BITE"...I mean "TOTALLY COPYING TO THE T!!!"
Another thing to laugh at...(as I read in her blog)...is that her mother (Bride's mother) even ventured out to "suggest" putting out pictures of the decest relatives out.....just as how I did with mine!....
I know...I know...all the brides "BITE" off one another. Yes, I get that. But c'mon now. BITING TO THE T????
Jumping the broom...now I can get that, because they are an Afro-American couple...so that I understand. DH and I did that, because that is HIS HERTIAGE...and I wanted to pay respects to that.
Peonies...Orchids...(more commonly used in Asian Weddings)...as I am Asian.
This is too hilarious. Funny to think, that DH and I got a phone call from his mom...and his mom (my mother-in-law) was saying to us that the Bride (her niece)...had become OFFICIALLY BRIDEZILLA, and that she was totally annoyed and fed up!....But then asked me to help her find fans? WTF??? Are you seriously kidding me? The bride is supposidly going to Singapore. Wouldn't it be the wise thing to do to shop there for it is WAAAAY much cheaper and then pack it home or have it shipped back here? I mean...I bought my favors overseas...shipping wasn't but a thing (not much), and the favors broke down to ilke practically 3 cents each!!! (For some REALLY CUTE AND ORIGINAL FAVORS!!...mind you!)
Then you go and read the Bride's blog...and she claims that the show BRIDEZILLA is "over-rated" and that she doesn't act like a Bridezilla. Does she even know that her Aunt thinks of her as one? ::laughs::
Okay okay okay...so I may sound a little spiteful here in my post...but the one serious thing that really annoys me is when FAMILY-IN-LAW MEMBERS....DO NOT HAVE their OWN ORIGINALITY...and bites off my ideas...from my wedding.
DH says to me, "Hun, look at it this way...they all must think you have GREAT TASTE, since they are biting off of you!!"
I guess so, ....but still.
(As it is Friday the 13th today....my luck will be 'probably getting yet another 'nasty email from this bride's mom saying she'll come over and commence an a$$ whooping her nephew (my DH) and me because we are 'silly a$$es'. I say "BRIIIIIINNNNG IT!"
So you are mad that she wants to use the same type of flowers you had? Orchids and peonies are extremely popular in weddings, and I hate to tell you but you aren't the first one to use them. I imagine you probably got lots of ideas from other weddings you saw. And also, many people do like to remember people who aren't able to attend their weddings - you aren't the first to do that either. Are her colors the same as yours? And what are the guys wearing? You can't let these kind of things bother you! There are a million people out there who probably had the same wedding as you. In reality, it just doesn't matter. And if they didn't go to your wedding, they probably didn't try to copy you. None of the guests will even notice the similarities. Just be happy for them!
Oh honey! Obviously you're really upset about this... take a deeeep breath... I have been to a lot of weddings, and at every wedding there were superficial similarities. But ONLY superficial! People do not attend weddings just to look at "stuff." People attend weddings to celebrate with the bride and groom. Your personalities, your flair, your talents and traditions are what make all the difference. So yes, it is frustrating when you feel like you've put a ton of effort into something so important only to feel like you're being copied... but YOU can never be replicated! And no one's experience of your wedding will be anything like the experience they have at your cousin's, even if all of the "stuff" is the same down to the very last petal.
I think there has to be something deeper than just someone using a few of the same elements. Your wedding already happened. People will remember your wedding- is that what you are worried about.
A lot of the elements you are describing are frequently used. Orchids are SUper Duper common and Peonies are in season and enjoying a lot of popularity.
I don't know why you are so upset but try to let it go, be happy for your family and take pride in that your wedding was so lovely that someone may be borrowing a few of your ideas.
i agree with beesknees. this is going way beyond being just a copy cat -- maybe there is a deep-seated resentment toward your DH's family for whatever reason, which is totally your perogative. the ENTIRE WEDDING INDUSTRY is based off copying the ideas of brides that came before you. it's BOUND to happen. orchids and peonies are not original ideas for flowers...
if you're not happy with them, just don't offer your help. don't attend the wedding. be happy that YOU had a beautiful wedding and am married to the man you love.
whoa is right. and it's not friday the 13th yet. you need to remember that your wedding is over and i completely agree that immitation is the sincerest form of flattery. maybe instead of being upset, you should present to this gal the inspiration behind your own wedding and tell her what everything means--orchids, peonies, etc. you might find you have more fun helping than complaining!
hope i don't come across snarky. . .best of luck to you!
Yeah, it sounds like you're super stressed, but just as an example, I'm thinking of using peonies, giving fans as favors, and putting out photos of deceased relatives, and - I've never met you. So maybe give this other bride the benefit of the doubt.
omg, I do find this post a bit confusing...but it'll make you feel better to know that Peonies and Orchids for a wedding ARE NOT ORIGINAL..is 95% of the time...THE NORM!
In fact, this past weekend alone...ALL the bees that got married used either one of those two flowers if not BOTH. Are they copying you? no...I'm using Peonies..am I copying them? no! am I copying you? NO!
If you resent his family for something else...don't worked youself up for the cousins wedding...it makes you sound (and probably look) C.R.A.Z.Y!
You don't seem to like this people so ignore what her plans are...I ASSURE YOU 100%...grab any wedding magazine today, right now....and it'll be hard not to find something you used at your wedding!
Hi Ladies....
It's been a while since I've been here on this board, as I've been enjoying the married life...but needed to come here to vent.
I'm here today....as I been following up on my DH's cousin who's getting married in August of this year (2008).
Can you believe that she and her family...HAS NO ORIGINALITY???
My gosh! (I don't want to hear them even say to me, "We didn't even come to your wedding, so we don't know what you had or didn't have!" Her mom had the gall to say to me that I was jealous??? Ummm..how is that so??? I am NOT the one that's "jealous" here. I CAME UP WITH MY OWN DESIGNS!!! BITING MY IDEAS FOR HER DAUGHTER'S WEDDING IN AUGUST....ummm...can I say she is the one that's jealous? ::for reals!::
"B.S.!!" I say...."because you know gosh darn well, that my Mother-In-Law, is the sister who's the mom of the bride! (My DH's Aunt.) And ya'll know you all talk with each other!"
Ladies...I have to say, that for their bouts...they have completely and totally copied what I had at my wedding back in February, as far as what the groom and groomsmen will wear.
They want to use Orchids...but can I say they don't even deserve to use Orchids? They don't even hold the belief of what Orchids mean!
Omg...and another hilarious thing is that they want to or is considering even using Peonies! (Once again, they hold nothing to the belief that Peonies have!)
I'm dying laughing over here...as I can't believe that as a Bride...she would rather "BITE" off another Bride's idea...rather then going TOTALLY UNIQUE and something that is DIFFERENT! When I say "BITE"...I mean "TOTALLY COPYING TO THE T!!!"
Another thing to laugh at...(as I read in her blog)...is that her mother (Bride's mother) even ventured out to "suggest" putting out pictures of the decest relatives out.....just as how I did with mine!....
I know...I know...all the brides "BITE" off one another. Yes, I get that. But c'mon now. BITING TO THE T????
Jumping the broom...now I can get that, because they are an Afro-American couple...so that I understand. DH and I did that, because that is HIS HERTIAGE...and I wanted to pay respects to that.
Peonies...Orchids...(more commonly used in Asian Weddings)...as I am Asian.
This is too hilarious. Funny to think, that DH and I got a phone call from his mom...and his mom (my mother-in-law) was saying to us that the Bride (her niece)...had become OFFICIALLY BRIDEZILLA, and that she was totally annoyed and fed up!....But then asked me to help her find fans? WTF??? Are you seriously kidding me? The bride is supposidly going to Singapore. Wouldn't it be the wise thing to do to shop there for it is WAAAAY much cheaper and then pack it home or have it shipped back here? I mean...I bought my favors overseas...shipping wasn't but a thing (not much), and the favors broke down to ilke practically 3 cents each!!! (For some REALLY CUTE AND ORIGINAL FAVORS!!...mind you!)
Then you go and read the Bride's blog...and she claims that the show BRIDEZILLA is "over-rated" and that she doesn't act like a Bridezilla. Does she even know that her Aunt thinks of her as one? ::laughs::
Okay okay okay...so I may sound a little spiteful here in my post...but the one serious thing that really annoys me is when FAMILY-IN-LAW MEMBERS....DO NOT HAVE their OWN ORIGINALITY...and bites off my ideas...from my wedding.
DH says to me, "Hun, look at it this way...they all must think you have GREAT TASTE, since they are biting off of you!!"
I guess so, ....but still.
(As it is Friday the 13th today....my luck will be 'probably getting yet another 'nasty email from this bride's mom saying she'll come over and commence an a$$ whooping her nephew (my DH) and me because we are 'silly a$$es'. I say "BRIIIIIINNNNG IT!"
posted by Anonymous 28 posts 5 months agoYour post is really confusing....
So you are mad that she wants to use the same type of flowers you had? Orchids and peonies are extremely popular in weddings, and I hate to tell you but you aren't the first one to use them. I imagine you probably got lots of ideas from other weddings you saw. And also, many people do like to remember people who aren't able to attend their weddings - you aren't the first to do that either. Are her colors the same as yours? And what are the guys wearing? You can't let these kind of things bother you! There are a million people out there who probably had the same wedding as you. In reality, it just doesn't matter. And if they didn't go to your wedding, they probably didn't try to copy you. None of the guests will even notice the similarities. Just be happy for them!
posted by dreambml 425 posts 5 months agoWoah.
"They want to use Orchids...but can I say they don't even deserve to use Orchids? They don't even hold the belief of what Orchids mean!
"
Wow.
posted by Maude 131 posts 5 months agoOh honey! Obviously you're really upset about this... take a deeeep breath... I have been to a lot of weddings, and at every wedding there were superficial similarities. But ONLY superficial! People do not attend weddings just to look at "stuff." People attend weddings to celebrate with the bride and groom. Your personalities, your flair, your talents and traditions are what make all the difference. So yes, it is frustrating when you feel like you've put a ton of effort into something so important only to feel like you're being copied... but YOU can never be replicated! And no one's experience of your wedding will be anything like the experience they have at your cousin's, even if all of the "stuff" is the same down to the very last petal.
posted by Evie 5 posts 5 months agoWhoa.
Someone get this girl a margarita and stat.
I think there has to be something deeper than just someone using a few of the same elements. Your wedding already happened. People will remember your wedding- is that what you are worried about.
A lot of the elements you are describing are frequently used. Orchids are SUper Duper common and Peonies are in season and enjoying a lot of popularity.
I don't know why you are so upset but try to let it go, be happy for your family and take pride in that your wedding was so lovely that someone may be borrowing a few of your ideas.
posted by beesknees 269 posts 5 months agoI mean really "Immitation is the sincerest form of flattery"
I think you need to take it down a quite a few notches and chill
posted by July2008Bride 189 posts 5 months agoWhat do orchids mean?
posted by rzblna 113 posts 5 months agoThese responses made me laugh.
posted by ynichole 147 posts 5 months agoThe post made me laugh!
posted by silverlining 7 posts 5 months agoi agree with beesknees. this is going way beyond being just a copy cat -- maybe there is a deep-seated resentment toward your DH's family for whatever reason, which is totally your perogative. the ENTIRE WEDDING INDUSTRY is based off copying the ideas of brides that came before you. it's BOUND to happen. orchids and peonies are not original ideas for flowers...
if you're not happy with them, just don't offer your help. don't attend the wedding. be happy that YOU had a beautiful wedding and am married to the man you love.
because that's what really matters, right?
posted by davndee09 16 posts 5 months agoAccoring to Wikipedia, the word "orchid" comes from the Greek word for testicle.
posted by MissSnapdragon 88 posts 5 months agowhoa is right. and it's not friday the 13th yet. you need to remember that your wedding is over and i completely agree that immitation is the sincerest form of flattery. maybe instead of being upset, you should present to this gal the inspiration behind your own wedding and tell her what everything means--orchids, peonies, etc. you might find you have more fun helping than complaining!
hope i don't come across snarky. . .best of luck to you!
posted by mrsbic 51 posts 5 months agowe need spell check on this board
love the testicle comment!
posted by missrae 88 posts 5 months agoMiss Snap Dragon!!! HAHAHHAHAHAH that makes me laugh so hard! I can't take it.
posted by beesknees 269 posts 5 months agowas I the only one that noticed that today is Tuesday June 10th and not Friday the 13th?
posted by babesilvia 62 posts 5 months agoyup, saw that - but that was the least of my problems with this post!
posted by dreambml 425 posts 5 months agoI haven't used my taser in quite some time. I may need to dust it off. CRA-ZAY-ZE
posted by MissRojoOso 220 posts 5 months agoYeah, it sounds like you're super stressed, but just as an example, I'm thinking of using peonies, giving fans as favors, and putting out photos of deceased relatives, and - I've never met you. So maybe give this other bride the benefit of the doubt.
posted by amysue 637 posts 5 months agothis is obviously a joke! right???
it's completely incoherent. just babbling. i don't even get it.
posted by SugaryRocks 60 posts 5 months agoR.E.L.A.X!
omg, I do find this post a bit confusing...but it'll make you feel better to know that Peonies and Orchids for a wedding ARE NOT ORIGINAL..is 95% of the time...THE NORM!
In fact, this past weekend alone...ALL the bees that got married used either one of those two flowers if not BOTH. Are they copying you? no...I'm using Peonies..am I copying them? no! am I copying you? NO!
If you resent his family for something else...don't worked youself up for the cousins wedding...it makes you sound (and probably look) C.R.A.Z.Y!
You don't seem to like this people so ignore what her plans are...I ASSURE YOU 100%...grab any wedding magazine today, right now....and it'll be hard not to find something you used at your wedding!
Calm down.
posted by V 228 posts 5 months ago