Post # 1
Hey Ladies! I need some opinions.
Short Version: My cousin got married three years ago at a local beach. Their original plan was to marry at a historic mansion on the lawn, and then reception on the waterfront in a small historic building. It rained, and they ended up exchanging vows at the reception site under a tent…not on the actual beach.
Now that I’m engaged, FI and I want to get married at that beach. (But actually on the sand) So basically we want to use the same facility for reception. We’ve talked about other beaches, but none of them have reception sites right there and none of them are as peaceful and beautiful.
The question is, do you ladies think that my cousins would feel like I’m a copycat?
We really don’t have much selection on our budget, and we really have always loved this location. I mean, it’s been three years, but since half our guest list is going to be the same as theirs was…do you think it would be a big deal? I wouldn’t be doing anything similar in ceremony, and I would definately decorate differently for the reception.
Thanks in advance! I just have seen several posts about "copycats" lately and started getting paranoid.
Post # 3
The reception site, interior, and the beach.
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Post # 4
Just talk to your cousins beforehand, and test the waters. Of course, start it out with how beautiful you thought their wedding was, how gorgeous the venue, how the food was great, yadda yadda yadda. Then intro into how it made you realize exactly what you wanted for your own wedding. EXACTLY. Hehee!
If it was me, I’d be flattered. But I don’t know about other people–we all know how the wedding crazies can develop! But, I think as long as you talk to them beforehand, you should be totally fine.
Post # 5
I agree, just ask your cousin directly-hey do you mind if we use the same venue? Of course you have to be prepared for them to say we do mind, and then what your next step is! Good luck!
Post # 6
Just ask her if she’d mind if you used some of the same venues since you’re so limited. But make sure she knows you want different colors, decor, food, that kidn of stuff so that it doesn’t have the same vibe.
Her wedding was 3 years ago so it’s not like it’s right after hers anyways. I had a friend who, so sweetly, called and made sure it was ok to book the same reception place as me, since her wedding was on my wedding day, a year later. I told her of course. I’ts not like our weddings would have BEEN EXACTLY THE SAME.
If you'[re limited by venues there isn’t a whole lot of wiggle room, make sure she knows that. And lots of people want a beach wedding, that isn’t too much of a copycat thing anyways
Post # 7
I agree ask her. I really do’t see anything wrong with it though. Like you said, it’s been several years, and even if it hadn’t I know plenty of people that have weddings in the same place as their friends/family. Your wedding will be completely different, unless you’re planning on copying color/theme, food, music, then that would be a copycat, but if it’s only the place, i see nothing wrong with that.
Post # 8
Definitely ask. I think I would be okay with it. I might want you to go with a totally different color scheme, and a totally different feel to the day. 🙂
My sister has accused me of copying her wedding (in a joking way, but there’s always some truth in that!) because we wanted to dance to a song by the same artist as her first dance song, and also we hired a pianist for the cocktail hour. I didn’t even know she had a pianist, haha. And we changed our 1st dance song (FI will dance with his mom to the first idea, instead). Now I’m wicked paranoid about it all, and conciously trying to make different choices. Her wedding will have been 3 years prior to my wedding.
Post # 9
Thank you all, I feel much better about this. I’m definately going to have to emphasize how small my budget is and how few options I have. Thanks for the reassurance!
Post # 10
Ive known several familes that have all married at the same venue, it kind of became a tradition. I agree you should ask her first and also to butter her up, you could also add a spin to it: saying that you were so impressed with her venue choice that you would be honored to marry at the same place she did.
Post # 11
I think you will be fine, just ask your cousin. Of course, your wedding will be different all together especially since it is 3 years later. If she does mind you will have to take that into consideration but it doesn’t mean that you don’t choose that place either. I say do what you want!
Post # 12
Ask your cousin…I doubt she will have a problem with it.