Post # 1
When I was looking for alternatives to the Unity Candle (I ended up deciding on Unity Flowers/Vases) I came across an idea from http://www.godsknot.com, the cord of 3 strands (based on ECC 4:9-12). I told the FH about it & he really thinks it’s a good idea (we’ll make it instead of spending $40 on ropes). He’ll hold a brass ring with 3 chords attached & I’ll braid them.
My question is, has anyone done this before? I know the FH’s dad (a pastor) has seen it before & thinks it’s nice, but I want to know where you had it in your ceremony-or where would a good place to put it? I have it in by the readings while ECC is being read, and before the other 2 readings we’ll have. Is that a good place to keep it? or should we put it somewhere else because it’s a little different than the readings?
Post # 3
I think as long as there is a little explination of what each chord means, you should probably do it during that time. That is so unique, I wish I had known about that a little earlier. I would have loved to do that instead of the unity candle. I might still see if FI would like to switch. Thanks for the idea!
Post # 4
We’re using the Ecclesiastes scripture, but aren’t doing a cord or unity candle or anything like that. Instead, we wrote a communal vow that all the guests will say to us after we’ve said our vows to each other. Basically it says, that they will always support us, never come between us, and lift us up in prayer to God.
I don’t know if you are having a homily, but that might be a good time/place to explain the three cords.
Post # 5
I’ve never heard of that, but it’s awesome! Boyfriend is a minister in the DOC so he wants a SUPER traditional wedding ceremony, but I’d love to incorporate that. I know he won’t go for it, but it’s a great idea!
Post # 6
haha. Well…I came up with it. I’m in Presby seminary and wanted a traditional, but personalized wedding. (: Tell him a fellow reformed clergy-person came up with it! LOL.
Post # 7
I’m going to talk to my FH about this. They did this in the movie Not Easily Broken.
Post # 8
my best friends brother did this when he got married in may, and it was neat. they tied in a celtic knot (which i think is supposed to never end?), and had a celtic knot on their programs, invitations, etc. they used the verse about the cord of three strands not being broken, and then had the past hold one strand while they held the other two. somehow they braided them, and then sealed the whole thing and now it hangs on their wall.
i thought it was neat, because it was in their wedding colours so it matched, but also because it physically illustrated the act of incorporating God into their relationship, which was neat to see.
Post # 9
How did you end up making this? I want to do one for my wedding in a few weeks!
Post # 10
I saw the same site a few months ago and we are doing this at our wedding. I am buying from them because I want to support their ministry and because it comes in our wedding colors! It is a really great way to celebrate the unity of the family without doing the candles. We are getting married in a conservatory style room anyways so no one would see the candles lit with the sun streaming in.
I live the fact that godsknot offers program inserts for us at $5 well worth it!
Post # 11
this is such a neat idea!! and the fact that it’s a keepsake to remind you years after years
Post # 12
Ya, How’d you make yours! Share the DIY saviness please!
Post # 13
this is such a nice idea!!!
seriously telling my FI on the spot 🙂
Post # 14
I’m super glad I found this thread, our wedding was 10 days ago and we were able to incorporate it very easily. . .
Since we wanted to have it in our wedding colors and I kinda don’t like purple, we made it ourselves using a brass steel ring and 3 tiebacks bought at hobby lobby. It all cost around $10! It was very easy to do (no sewing involved) and it looked awesome . We ended up using white for the bride, gold for God and green for the groom.
Before braiding our pastor briefly explained the meaning of the cords, and later while we were braiding, a friend was singing a beautiful song called “Mi Esposa” (My wife) from Abraham Velásquez which at the end says something like “this is a pact that will never break”
BTW, I saw online two options on how to do the braiding:
1. One person holds the ring (usually the groom) the other person braids (usually the bride) (source)
2. One person holds the ring (i.e. flower girl) and the bride and groom braid (source). This is the option we picked and our pastor was the one holding the ring.
I hope this helps other brides out there that are thinking on doing this ceremony. . .
I really want to encourage you to include this in your ceremony because it’s a very beautiful way to show the world that you want God to be the center of your marriage. Plus, you can put the braided cord in a shadowbox and it will serve as a reminder of your commitment
Here is a pic of us in action hahaha:
Post # 15
We are doing the 3 cords things and while we are braiding the song “As for me and my house” by John Waller will be playing. I’m so excited about this part of the ceremony. I’ve only told 2 people we are doing this.
Also, I haven’t bought my cords yet. Since we are having a Shabby Chic Circus themed wedding, I’m thinking about using strips of fabric instead. Like I said, I’m so excited!
Post # 16
This is an old thread but i’m SO glad I found it… I think its awesome and I’d love to do it too since we are having an outdoor ceremony so candles wouldn’t work (they might get blown out by the wind and how bad would that look if your unity candle blew out!)
I really hope my FI likes it too! I’d like to use navy blue instead of purple.