Post # 1
I need a little ettiquite advice here… we are having a very small ceremony of 12 people total. It will be our parents, siblings, aunt and uncle and one cousin. Do I really need to have corsages and boutonnières for all of them when they are the only ones coming?? I was going to do boutonnière for my fiance and his BM (who is his brother). But, I don’t want to offend my parents or his.
Post # 3
Eh, I don’t know the ettiquette on this myself and am in the same boat. I think it would be fine to do just your fiance and the BM because clearly everyone else will know they are guests of honor just because of the fact that it is a small wedding. I decided to have them for all our honor guests just because we are having a large reception later that afternoon.
Post # 4
Generally the groom and bridal party, the parents are the only ones who wear flowers. Not aunts or uncles or siblings unless they are part of the ceremony. I do make permanent florals which are more reasonable.
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Post # 5
Ya, I don’t know that there is an etiquette rule when you are only inviting a very small group to begin with. We had 65 guests, and with the fact that my parents are divorced and re-married and we had 3 BMs and 4 GMs plus two siblings as readers/ushers it just started to see excessive to give everyone flowers! I mean, when you added up all the parents, grandparents, wedding party, it would have been like half the guests. We opted to only make bouts for the GMs and my husband.
I know my Mum would have appreciated having flowers, but when I explained my reasoning for it, she understood. Certainly some people might expect it, but if you explain it to them, it makes sense.
Post # 6
I would do just the groom, BM and parents, not the extended family. Keep it simple, they will know they are important more by the invitation to be there on your special day.
Post # 7
I am having a similar wedding, and will have my bouquet, FI will have his bout, as well as my nephew (he is walking me down the aisle), and our mothers will have wrist coursages….only because they are lighting the tapers for our unity candle. Another idea I tossed around was giving mothers roses, but similar to your situation, my mother and father are divorced and I didn’t want to make a big deal with that!